Stinkin' Thinkin'
I feel like a lazy person so I am a lazy person
What is Emotional Reasoning?
When I can only focus on the negative.
What is discounting the positive?
You think with certainty that you know what and why others think and feel.
What is mind reading?
I'm convinced that I shouldn't be so upset about this
What is a should statement? Or what is minimizing?
You pick out a negative single issue and dwell on it
What is mental filter?
My big ears make me unattractive
What is mental filter?
Blowing things out of proportion or denying something is a problem
What is magnification or minimization?
You use terms such as "lazy" "fat" "stupid" "loser" "jerk," stating them like they are facts.
What is Labeling?
I'm convinced I'll never love again
What is fortune telling?
What is emotional reasoning?
She is ruining my life
Blaming
Without checking the facts, your conclusions immediately interpret a situation in line with your negative way of thinking.
What is jumping to conclusions?
You determine 'Nobody Likes Me' after one person says they can't or won't go to coffee with you.
What is overgeneralization?
I expect life to be fair
What is fallacy of fairness?
What is mind reading?
It's my fault my child is irresponsible
Personalization
You predict a negative outcome in the future based on your distorted way of thinking. Or, you think you know what will happen without any real evidence.
What is fortune telling?
He's so much smarter than me, I'm stupid.
What is playing the comparison game?
Even though she told me I'm good at this, she doesn't see how I am at home
What is discounting the positive?
What is playing the comparison game?
She's mad at me - I can't ever face her again
Over-catastrophizing
Things are seen as black and white terms where there are no shades of gray. Or you make a mistake, you think that you "failed" and/or are a "failure."
What is all or nothing thinking?
Unforgiving expectations of yourself or others, or having preconditions that use the word "must"
What are should statements?
I am a bad person
What is all or nothing thinking? Or what is labeling?
His crabby mood is probably because I did something wrong.