UE Conflict Resolution

All About Conflict

100

What is conflict?

Conflict is a disagreement, or a difference of opinion. Sometimes conflict can cause a fight/argument.

200

Name one of the top three conflict starters.

Teasing, gossiping, name calling.

300

Name another conflict starter.

Answers may vary (examples, rumors, misunderstandings, bragging, hurt feelings, lying, leaving someone out, etc.)

400

Is conflict good or bad?

Neither. Conflicts just happen. They are part of life.

500

When it comes to conflict, what part can be good or bad?

The choices we make can be good or bad.

Types of Conflict

100

Name one of the four types of conflict talked about in peace class.

Disagreements, Rude Moments, Mean Moments, or Bullying.

200

A Rude Moment is hurting someone's body or feelings on ___________.

Accident.

300

A disagreement means that people have different ideas about something, and usually no one's feelings get hurt. True or false?

True.

400

A Mean Moment is hurting someone's body or feelings on _______________.

Purpose.

500

Bullying hurts someone's body or feelings on purpose, and happens just once. True or false?

False. Bullying means it happens over and over again.

Responding to Conflict

100

If a problem/conflict is resolved in a way that meets the needs of all people involved, we call it ___ - _____.

Win-win, thumbs up.

200

Yelling back at people, even though you know you shouldn't, can be _____________ conflict response.

Harmful.

300

Trying to talk things out, before it turns into a physical fight, can be a _________ conflict response.

Helpful.

400

Name another choice that would be a harmful conflict response.

Answers vary (examples: hitting, punching, kicking, trying to prove you're right, calling someone a mean name, telling someone what to do, etc.)

500

Name another choice that would be a helpful conflict response.

Answers may vary (examples: telling the truth and trying to be fair, trying to compromise, taking a break, apologizing, listening to the other person, asking a friend or adult for help, etc.)

Conflict Escalator

100

If you are going up the conflict escalator, your conflict is getting _________.

Worse. Your conflict is escalating and getting worse.

200

If you are going down the conflict escalator, then your conflict is getting ____________.

Better. Your conflict is de-escalating and getting better.

300

What is something you can do (words or actions) that moves a problem UP the conflict escalator?

Varies (examples: Yell, hit or push, be bossy, call names, roll your eyes, don't listen to the other person, get in personal space, lie, etc.)

400

What is something you can do (words or actions) that moves a problem DOWN the conflict escalator?

Varies (examples: Use a calm voice, take a break, apologize, ask for help, take turns, let it go, use humor, compromise, listen, etc.)

500

Share a time you were on a conflict escalator with someone else. What happened?

Answers will vary.

Conflict Scenarios

100

Your friend sent you a mean note. What can you do to avoid a conflict?

Answers may vary (examples: Talk it out, use a calm voice, tell them how you are feeling, ask them to please stop).

200

Someone rolled their eyes at you while you were talking to them. What can you do to avoid a conflict?

Answers may vary (examples: walk away, ignore it, ask the person to stop, use Talk it Out or an I-message, talk to someone else next time).

300

Someone told you that your friend was talking about you at recess. What should you do to avoid a conflict?

Answers may vary (examples: talk to your friend directly, use a calm voice, listen, take a break if upset, ask for help, share your feelings, ask them to please stop).

400

You and a friend were joking around, and you said something on accident that really hurt their feelings. What can you do to help solve this problem/conflict?

Answers may vary (examples: ask the person why they're upset, listen, apologize, accept responsibility).

500

You heard two people whispering and you think you heard them say your name. How can you stop this from turning into a conflict?

Answers may vary (examples: talk with the people, ask them directly, be honest, listen, stop rumors from spreading, etc.)