Boyfriend/Girlfriend
Ava has a boyfriend that is always telling her she is stupid and ugly. She is afraid that he will leave her so she puts up with his insults.
Is Ava in an abusive relationship? What shoud she do?
Ava is in an abusive relationship. If her boyfriend really cares for her, he should call her names.
She should end this relationship and not be afraid of losing a boyfriend.
Should James work when he is not on the clock? What should his boss tell him before asking him to help?
James should not do any work if he is not being paid (on the clock). His boss should ask him if he can stay If James says yes, then his boss should have him to clock back in.
Harry's friend asks him to loan him some money. Last week Harry loaned him $20 and has not been paid back. Harry is afraid that his friend will get mad if he doesn't loan him the money.
Harry should not loan anyone money just so they will be his friend.
Harry should let his friend know that he has not paid him back the $20 and he can't loan him anymore money.
If his friend gets mad then he's not a friend.
Karen is dating James and is always asking him to buy her things. James feels like she is taking advantage of him, because anytime he sees her she wants him to spend money on her.
Is Karen taking advantage of James?
Yes. If a relationship is one sided(one person is giving and the other person is taking) it is not healthy.
A healthy relationship should not be based on how much one person can do for the other. James should feel that Karen cares for him for something besides what he can buy for her.
Your boss is always touching you even though you've asked him not to. He says that he doesn't mean anything by it. Is your boss respecting you?
No. You should not have to tell your boss not to touch you. In a work place, a boss should know that this type of behavior could be considered Sexual Harrassment(this applies to male or female)
*accidently bumping into you would not be considered touching you.
Jessica and Ally hang out a lot when they are not at work. Jessica considers Ally as a friend.
One day, Heather, another co-worker, overhears Ally talking badly about Jessica at work.
Heather notices that anytime Jessica is not around she is bad mouthing her at work. She tells Jessica and Jessica just laughs it off. She likes Ally because she has someone to hang out with when she is not at work.
Is this a healthy relationship that Jessica should maintain?
No. This relationship is not healthy. If Ally was a friend she would not do this to a friend. Jessica not taking this seriously is a sign that she will take any abuse to keep a friendship.
Being abused by a friend is showing that person that you will allow it. Jessica should discontinue this friendship and find a friend she can find support and trust with.
You met someone online and they ask you to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. He/She tells you they are 18 years old like you, but they are actually 50 years old. You feel you have a strong connection from talking to them online for six months.
This is not a healthy relationship. Words do not make a relationship. The fact that you are assuming the person is telling you the truth can be dangerous.
If you do not know if the person is truly who they say they are, it is best not to develop a relationship with them.
Your boss asks gives you your check, but there is no information on how many hours you worked or any deductions that were taken out.
You mention this and he/she tells you that you should be glad you have a job.
This has been going on since you started. What should you do?
You shoud speak to his supervisor. If that doesn't resolve it you should report it to the EEOC(Equal Employment Opportunity Commission). This is a governmental agency that you can file any work related complaint against your employer.
How do you know your friendship is not healthy?
If a friend is constantly wanting something from you this is a sign that the person is taking advantage of you?
If a friend is talking down to you, making fun of you, or makes you feel bad about yourself, this is a sign of a unhealthy relationship.
Remember, friendship means you can trust them to be there when you need them.