Feelings Target
True or false: everyone has off-target feelings sometimes
true
True or False: Off-target feelings may lead to off-target or unhelpful behavior
true
What does it mean to be flexible? stuck?
Flexible: change our ideas, thoughts, or plans; keep an open mind
Stuck: cannot change ideas or plans when necessary
Name a recent time you got stuck in a thinking trap
any example
When do I need a Plan B?
When my plan a doesn't work
When something unexpected happens
When I need to compromise
What does it mean for a feeling to be on target?
The size of the feeling matches the size of the problem
The feeling is helpful
Complete the feelings chain:
I have missing work to do --> ___________ (feeling) -->________ (behavior)
Any answers that make sense!
Name a recent situation when you were stuck
any example!
What is fortune telling?
making predictions about the future without evidence
Name 3 Plan B options for this situation: You want to play basketball during study hall but none of your classmates can/will play with you
3 possible options
What does it mean for a feeling to be off target?
Complete a feelings chain for a situation you have experienced:
_______ (situation or thought) --> ________ (feeling) --> (behavior)
situation or thought --> feeling --> behavior
Name a recent situation where you were flexible
any
What is dark glasses?
Thinking about only the negative things
What is a compromise?
a way for everyone to get a little of what they want
1) each person gets part 2) choose something new 3) take turns
Name a situation you have had an off-target feeling AND what the on-target feeling would have been
any off-target feeling
Place these 3 words in order of the feelings chain:
Behavior
Thoughts/Situation
Feelings
thoughts/situation --> feelings --> behavior
Why can it be hard to be flexible?
It can be hard to change plans, not get exactly what you want, etc.
Off-target emotions
What is black and white thinking?
Looking at things in only opposites or extremes
Name a time that you had to come up with a Plan B when your original plan/goal did not work
example from student
Name a strategy you can use when you are having an off-target feeling
Take a walk, take deep breaths, talk about it, etc.
Which parts of the feelings chain (thoughts, feelings, behavior) do we have control over?
All to some extent - it depends! We always have control over our behavior, and we have some control over our thoughts and feelings.
When you are getting stuck, what strategies can you use to be flexible?
use coping strategies (walk, breathing, talking)
Decide if the problem is a big deal or little deal/if you are on-target
brainstorm the choices you have
What is binocular vision?
Looking at things in a way that makes them seem smaller or bigger than they really are
What strategies can you use if your Plan A doesn't work and you're getting stuck?
Ask for help
Brainstorm compromises
Use strategies to calm down
Identify thinking traps