Domestic Violence Cycle
What is the cycle of abuse?
The domestic violence cycle of abuse is a diagram which helps us to understand the different phases which typically occur in abusive relationships before, during and after an abusive episode.
What is consent?
To freely give permission for something to happen or to agree to do something. Examples:
•Consent is ongoing communication. It occurs continuously and moment to moment.
•Receiving an indication of interest early in the evening is not an open invitation for any sexual contact later.
•Each person should be communicating consent clearly and effectively either verbally or physically.
True or False:
Dating relationships are the only kinds of relationships that can be unhealthy.
False
Define what LGBT means:
Bonus points if you can define: LGBTQIA+
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender
What is bystander intervention?
When an individual witnesses a crime or other event that needs others to intervene in to help the persons in the situation.
What is the tension building phase in the cycle of abuse?
The phase that happens before violence occurs in an abusive relationship which is usually defined by feeling like a person is walking on eggshells, threats and intimidation occurs, fear, guilt, and abuser displays unpredictable behavior.
When Can Someone Not Give Consent?
If they are: under the influence, unconscious, unable, under pressure, and under age.
What kind of things makes a healthy relationship?
•Negotiation & Fairness
•Open Communication
•Respect
•Trust & Support
•Honesty & Accountability
•Intimacy
•Shared Responsibility
•Physical Affection-when given permission
Define what non-binary is:
Is part of the transgender umbrella and most of the time means when a person does not identify as either male or female and instead somewhat in the middle or gender neutral.
What is the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship?
Studies show that women face the greatest risk of assault when they leave or threaten to leave their partners, or report the abuse to authorities.
What is the Violence Phase in the cycle of abuse?
The phase in which violence occurs. Could be physical, emotional, financial, sexual and/or reproductive violence.
When is consent necessary?
Always
What kind of things make an unhealthy relationship?
•Harassment & Name Calling
•Intimidation
•Threats
•Violation of Personal Boundaries
•Limiting Independence
•Degradation & Humiliation
•Isolation
•Distrust & Paranoia
What is the one type of sexual violence that only people in the LGBTQIA+ community face?
Corrective rape.
How many cases in Otsego county does VIP open each year?
Nearly 200 a year
What is the honeymoon phase in the cycle of abuse?
This is the phase that happens after the abuse occurs where the abuser usually apologizes or tries to "make up" for the abusive behavior by saying they will change and/or buying the victims gifts. They may blame the violence on the victim and/or ignore what abuse had happened or deny that any violence had occurred.
What is the age of consent in NYS?
17
Name 3 red flags of an unhealthy relationship:
*Checking your cell phone or email without permission
*Constantly putting you down
*Extreme jealousy
*Explosive temper
*Isolating you from family or friends
*Making false accusations
*Mood swings
*Physically hurting you in any way
*Possessiveness
*Telling you what to do
*Pressuring you to do something you’re not comfortable with
*Need for constant contact
*Rigid gender roles
*Animal cruelty/abuse
*Breaking or striking objects when angry
What percent of trans people experience sexual violence in their lifetimes?
66%
What is the bystander effect?
The more people that see an event occurring the less likely they are to intervene.
Which phase in the cycle of abuse does a victim spend the most amount of time in?
The tension phase.
Do two people who are dating need to ask for consent?
YES
Which scenario is healthy in a relationship out of these two scenarios:
1. You always feel like your partner's wishes and goals come first.
2. You and your partner feel like you can share things with each other, but you also feel like you can keep some things private.Scenario 2
__ in __ trans people have been sexually assaulted by a health care provider.
1 in 10
Name two services that VIP provides:
•24/7 Crisis Hotline
•Shelter
•Advocacy
•Legal/Medical Accompaniment
•Crime Victim Aid
o(OVS Claims, Orders of Protection)
•Counseling
•Education
•Outreach