Dialectics
Two things that seem like (or are) opposites can both be true.
She didn't text me back, so she clearly doesn't like me.
What's an example of mind reading?
It communicates to another persona that his/her feelings, thoughts, and actions make sense and are understandable to you in a particular situation.
What is validation?
Positive reinforcement equals...
What is a positive consequence? (i.e., reward).
Name your favorite mindfulness skill.
Answers will vary.
I am doing the best I can and I need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change.
What is an example of Dialectics?
I feel no one cares about me, therefore I am a horrible person.
What is an example of emotional reasoning?
Say back what you heard or observed to be sure you actually understand that the persona is saying.
What is "reflect back"?
Negative reinforcement equals...
What is removal of negative events? (i.e., relief).
Name the three states of mind.
Acceptance and Change equal...?
What is The Middle Path?
My parents should give me whatever I want.
What is an example of "Should" statements?
Agreeing, approving, praising, encouraging and problem solving
What is not validation?
Extinction equals...
What is stopping an ongoing reinforcement of behavior?
Accepting something as it is, without judgement and without trying to change it. This does NOT mean you agree.
What is radical acceptance?
Check your assumptions. Don't assume that you know what others are thinking.
What's a step towards how to think and act dialectically?
Since I got a C in my last exam, I am going to fail this class.
What's an example of overgeneralization?
Don't validate the invalid.
Stay away from being judgmental
Active listening
How to validate ?
Satiation equals...
What is providing relief or what is wanted before the behavior occurs?
FEEL your feelings!
What is urge surfing/riding the wave?
Overgeneralization
What is a thinking error/mistake/cognitive distortion?
If I can't be happy all the time, I am just sad and miserable.
What's an example of all-or-nothing thinking?
Be yourself! Don't "one-up" or "one-down" the other person. Treat the other as an equal, not as fragile or incompetent.
What is "show equality" in validation?
True or false: Not all consequences are created equal.
What is true?
Name the four components of DBT.
What is mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, emotion regulation, and distress tolerance?