DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness Goals
CBT Cognitive Distortions
DBT GIVE & DEAR MAN
True or False: Skills in Action
BONUS!!! (Spring Edition)
100

This is the primary goal of DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness skills.

What is maintaining self-respect while effectively managing relationships and meeting objectives?

100

This distortion involves assigning blame to others without considering your own role in a situation.

What is "Blaming"?

100

In DBT, this acronym stands for the skills used to Gentlely ask for what you need in a way that preserves relationships.

What is "GIVE"?

100

True or False: The main goal of DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness is to focus solely on your own needs, regardless of the relationship.

False. DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness focuses on balancing your needs with maintaining healthy relationships, not ignoring the relationship aspect.

100

In spring, this animal is often seen hopping around outside (we may even have some babies hopping around Lodge).

What is a bunny?

200

This is a common barrier to effective interpersonal interactions when individuals are unclear about their needs.

What is "Not knowing what you want"?

200

When you downplay your accomplishments or successes and focus only on the negatives, this distortion is likely at play.

What is "Disqualifying the Positives"?

200

This element of the "GIVE" acronym focuses on maintaining a positive relationship by validating the other person’s feelings.

What is "Validate"?

200

True or False: In DEAR MAN, "Reinforce" refers to praising the other person for agreeing with you.

True. Reinforcing means positively affirming the other person when they respond in a way that supports your goal. It can also mean reinforcing why they should want to grant your request (ie. what they'll get out of it).

200

People celebrate this holiday in spring with eggs, bunnies, and chocolate.

What is Easter?

300

When interpersonal effectiveness is impaired, this emotional reaction often gets in the way of clear communication.

What is emotional dysregulation?

300

This distortion involves focusing only on the negative aspects of a situation while ignoring any positive details, leading to a skewed and overly negative perception of reality.

What is "Filtering"?

300

This skill acronym helps individuals assert themselves effectively when asking for what they need.

What is "DEAR MAN"?


+100 Bonus Points if you can identify each skill in the acronym.

300

True or False: Disqualifying the Positives involves recognizing the good things about yourself but refusing to accept them.

True. This cognitive distortion leads to rejecting positive feedback or accomplishments, minimizing their significance.

300

These insects are known for buzzing around flowers and helping them grow.

What are bees?

400

This involves your emotions driving your actions and can get in the way of effective interpersonal interactions.

What is "Emotions controlling your behavior"?

400

This distortion involves thinking that emotions are facts, leading to decisions based on feelings rather than objective evidence.

What is "Emotional Reasoning"?

400

This part of the DEAR MAN acronym emphasizes being clear about what you are asking for in the situation.

What is "Assert"?

400

True or False: Emotional Reasoning involves using your emotions as evidence that something is true, without factual support.

True. Emotional Reasoning means believing that because you feel a certain way, it must be true.

400

Complete the rhyme: "April showers bring..."

What is "May flowers"?

500

In interpersonal effectiveness, individuals sometimes make requests too passively or too aggressively. These are examples of what?

What is ineffective communication styles?

500

This cognitive distortion involves assuming you know exactly what others are thinking, usually in a negative light, without any evidence to support it.

What is "Mind Reading"?

500

In DEAR MAN, this involves recognizing and staying focused on your goals, rather than becoming distracted or emotional.

What is "Stay Mindful"?

500

True or False: Filtering can help you focus on important details by ignoring the irrelevant ones.

False. Filtering involves focusing exclusively on negative aspects, while ignoring any positive details.

500

This colorful butterfly migrates thousands of miles each spring from Mexico to the United States.

What is a monarch butterfly?