Have you been listening?
Silver linings is a ______ exercise
positive psychology
The 4 horsemen are behaviors that...
escalate conflict and damage a relationship. Over time, these harmful behaviors may become a normal part of communication between partners.
T/F: The circle of control is a communication technique
False- helps us identify things in and out of our control to help us decide where to place our energy.
T/F- Relapse is always part of the stages of change.
False
Why shouldn't you use a broken pencil?
Because it's pointless.
Describe Pre-Contemplation
The costs of the problem behavior (such as drug use) are not yet recognized. The individual is in denial and is not seriously considering changing their behavior. They may have made previous attempts to change, but have since given up.
What does stonewalling look like?
Emotionally withdrawing, shutting down, or going silent during important discussions.
• Often a response to feeling overwhelmed. • Used to avoid difficult discussions or problems. • Underlying problems go unresolved
Challenging situations and looking for a silver lining can help you become....
happier and more optimistic
T/F- Someone is in the Contemplation stage if they are ambivalent about changing their behavior.
True
What is Forrest Gump's password?
1forrest1
What does PAWS stand for?
Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome
How do you correct defenesiveness? Also, give an example using a sentence.
Own up to your behavior without blaming others.
• Avoid taking feedback personally. • Use feedback as an opportunity to improve. • Show remorse and apologize.
“I shouldn't have raised my voice. I’m sorry."
What are 1 things that are in your control (each person)
thoughts/actions, how you speak to yourself, goals you set, what you give your energy to, boundaries
Describe the Action Stage
Significant steps are taken to end the problem behavior. The individual might be avoiding triggers, reaching out for help, or taking other steps to avoid temptation.
What goes up and down but doesn't move?
Stairs
Name an activity that would be considered a "dessert" on the Dopamenu you did with Kaitlyn
Watch Tv
Play games on phone
Online shop
Scroll Social Media
What are the 4 antidotes?
Gentle start up, Take responsibility, Share fondness/admiration, Use self-soothing
Name 1 things outside of your control (each person)
The past, future, opinions of others, actions of others, outcomes of my efforts, what others think of me
What stage of change is someone in if they have begun to make minor changes to support their goal, but they might not have completely ended the unwanted behavior?
Preparation
What did 0 say to 8?
Nice Belt
Give an example of how to use "Gentle Start Up"
Dealing with problems in a calm and gentle way. The focus is on the problem—not the person.
• Save the discussion for an appropriate time.
• Use warm body language and tone of voice.
• Use “I” statements.
“I feel frustrated when dirty dishes are left in the sink. Could you please do the dishes tonight?”
What are the 4 different horsemen?
Criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling
What are the 3 steps to finding silver linings?
1. Positive Mindset
2. A Moment of Frustration
3. Silver Linings
What are the stages of change?
Pre-contemplation, Contemplation, Preparation, Action, Maintenance.-- sometimes Relapse
Why do seagulls fly over the sea?
If they flew over the bay, they would be bagels.