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Anxiety/ Self-Care
Emotional Regulation
Forgiveness
4 Horsemen
100

How do you combat contempt? And what is 1 example?

Share Fondness & Admiration

Foster a healthy relationship by regularly showing each other respect and appreciation.

• Show affection.

• Recognize your partner’s strengths.

• Give compliments.

100

Anxiety is a feeling of...

unease that will accompany unpleasant thoughts that are hard to get out of your head.

100

Give an example of Opposite action for angry

instead of fighting/yelling/arguing --> talk quietly and behave politely

100

Forgiveness IS

The decision to overcome pain that was inflicted by another person.

Letting go of anger, resentment, shame, and other emotions associated with an injustice, even though they are reasonable feelings.

Treating the offender with compassion, even though they are not entitled to it.

100

The 4 horsemen are behaviors that...

escalate conflict and damage a relationship. Over time, these harmful behaviors may become a normal part of communication between partners.

200

What are the 5 senses?

See, Feel, Hear, Smell, Taste

200

Self care activities are ______

things you do to maintain good health and improve well being.

200

Name 3 ideas of activities for "paying attention to positive events"

Have a good unrushed meal

visit a local attraction like a zoo or museum

have a picnic

watch a movie

go for a walk

give yourself a relaxing night in

visit with family or friends

put on headphones and do nothing but listen to music

try a new hobby

200

What is forgiveness NOT?

Reconciliation (repairing or returning to a relationship), Forgetting the injustice, Condoning or excusing the offender’s behavior,  Granting legal mercy to the offender, “Letting go”, but wishing for revenge.

200

How do you correct defenesiveness? Also, give an example using a sentence.

Own up to your behavior without blaming others. 

• Avoid taking feedback personally. • Use feedback as an opportunity to improve. • Show remorse and apologize. 

“I shouldn't have raised my voice. I’m sorry."

300

T/F: forgiveness can occur without ever speaking to the wrongdoer.

true

300

Name 3 possible symptoms of anxiety

Headache, high blood pressure, irritability, trouble sleeping, fatigue, stomach issues, feeling numb, withdrawal, etc.

300

What is the first question in "check the facts"

What event triggered my emotion?

300

What are you doing in the Work Phase?

During the third phase, you will start to understand the offender in a new way, which will allow positive feelings toward the offender and yourself.

300

What are the 4 antidotes?

Gentle start up, Take responsibility, Share fondness/admiration, Use self-soothing

400

Please have each team member name one thing that would "sit below the surface" of the anxiety iceburg?

numb, intrusive thoughts, low self esteem, shame, guilt, hopelessness, grief

400

What are the 5 Self-Care Domains we discussed in the assessment?

Physical, Psychological/Emotions, Social, Spiritual, and Professional

400

What does PLEASE stand for?

PL- Treat Physical Illness

E- eat healthy

A- avoid mood altering drugs

S- Sleep well

E- Exercise

400

What are the 4 phases of forgiveness?

The Uncovering Phase. 

The Decision Phase

The Work Phase.

The Deepening Phase.

400

What does stonewalling look like?

Emotionally withdrawing, shutting down, or going silent during important discussions.

 • Often a response to feeling overwhelmed. • Used to avoid difficult discussions or problems. • Underlying problems go unresolved

500

Give an example of how to use "Gentle Start Up"

Dealing with problems in a calm and gentle way. The focus is on the problem—not the person.

• Save the discussion for an appropriate time.

• Use warm body language and tone of voice.

• Use “I” statements.

“I feel frustrated when dirty dishes are left in the sink. Could you please do the dishes tonight?”

500

What are the 6 causes/triggers for anxiety

Personality types, life events, brain chemistry, thoughts, genetics and own actions/behaviors.

500

What are the 4 emotional regulation skills we discussed?

Opposite action, PLEASE, Check the facts and paying attention to positive events.

500

Forgiveness is a process where....

someone who has been wronged chooses to let go of their resentment, and treat the wrongdoer with compassion.

500

What are the 4 different horsemen?

Criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling