Stages of Change
Fence sitting
What is Contemplation?
(Stay)Mindful, Describe, Appear Confident, Assert, Reinforce, Negotiate, Express
What is DEARMAN?
A stone wall is an example of..
What is Rigid boundaries
I am ---------------- verses I did ----------------------
What is the difference between Guilt and Shame
What gets you out of a TRAP?
What is TRAC
What is Precontemplation
I feel (Emotion word) when (explanation)
What are I statements
Oversharing, face talking, overinvolved in other people's lives, Dependent on others opinions/ideas, Fear's rejection,
What is Porous boundaries
Accepting yourself for who and what you are, past present and future. Treating yourself with kindness, and eventually loving yourself.
What is Self-Compassion
Light
Hint: It's usually hidden
What kills Shame?
You've been in recovery for over 6 months, and have not relapsed.
What is Maintenance
occurs through language, tone of voice, body language, gestures, emotions.
works best when at least one person is listening
What is Communication
What is Healthy Boundries
Letting go, and/or forgiveness can help relieve this pressure cooker of an emotion.
What is Resentment
What is the Pink Cloud?
You typically hit "the Wall" during this stage (6 weeks-4 months)
What is Action
Check in with yourself first, Discuss one topic at a time, no degrading language/yelling/stonewalling, Take turns, I statements, understand/compromise, Take a break if things get to heated.
These rules are for what?
What is Fair Fighting
What I share with you, you will hold in confidence. What you share with me, I will hold in confidence.
What is the Vault.
This is not inherited, nor does it automatically lead to aggression.
Venting verbally or physically is not a recommended outlet for this emotion.
What is Anger
This is typically 4-6 weeks, and your brain is overproduces chemicals so you are at risk for the pink cloud.
What is the Honeymoon period?
Reba has an opioid habit and was contemplating seeking help. On her way to her drug dealer she hears an advertisement for a local substance abuse clinic. She decides to call the number to ask questions about the program.
What is Preparation.
A respectful form of communication, where healthy boundaries are maintained, needs are being expressed and both parties are open to the concept of "no"
You can get push back from others when switching into this form of communication.
What is Assertiveness.
Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-judgement, and Generosity are...
What is the Marbles in the Marble Jar of trust,
or The Anatomy of Trust.
This stress hormone strengthens your heart, and is enhanced by social contact and social support.
What is oxytocin
Tip the temperature is based off of this bodily response to diving into cold water
What is the Mammalian dive reflex