Change
True or False: In order to create change, you should set SMART goals (specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-based goals).
True
Thoughts, _________, and behaviors all influence one another (think about our triangle).
feelings/emotions
What is the difference between anger and aggression?
Anger is an emotion and aggression is a behavior
Is self-control something we are born with or something we learn?
Self-control skills are something that we learn, not something that we are born with.
We develop the ability to exert self-control as we mature (executive functions develop as frontal lobes develop, this begins in childhood and is not completed until your 20s or 30s). However, we need to be taught these skills.
Is there such a thing as "no risk"
No. There is inherent risk in every action we take.
Name an obstacle of Change
System (e.g. probation/legal, substandard schools), Society (e.g. social justice, poverty), Peers (e.g. gangs, peer pressure), Psychological factors (e.g. ambivalence, hopelessness/helplessness), Generational dynamics (e.g. legacy of discrimination and racism)
To respond rather than react to a situation, we use our __________ brain and not our _______ brain.
Thinking; feeling
True or False: You can gain control in a provoking situation by letting anger get the best of you.
False, you gain control in a provoking situation by controlling your emotions.
What was the point of the video with the marshmallow test?
To show that delay of gratification is hard, especially for children
Name one strategy for managing risk
Know the risks, anticipate risky situations, control/avoid risky behaviors, use the stop-think-act strategy (Assess the environment - is it risky?, am I engaged in any behaviors that will make an already risky situation worse?, Are there alternate behaviors? What behavior will minimize risk? Reassess the situation)
Name a personal change and an environmental change
Personal - giving up smoking, going back to school
Environmental - civil rights movement, economic changes, laws, war
Are emotions good or bad?
All emotions are good since they inform us of what is going on around us and what to do
Emotions may be helpful/harmful depending on how we interpret and react to them.
Is anger inherently bad?
No, anger is not bad in and of itself. Anger is a natural emotion.
Explain the "Stop-Think-Do" model
The "Stop-Think-Do" model is stopping to consider what the problem is and what your goal is. Thinking and evaluating your choices and their consequences. Choosing and doing the best solution and evaluating the outcome.
How can risk be categorized
No risk, low risk, medium risk, high risk
True or False: Change is always bad
False
True or False: You have control over your own actions in a situation
True! You cannot change the situation, but you can change your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to take charge of the situation.
True or False: Increased awareness of angry feelings makes it possible to cope with them.
True
Define "delay of gratification"
Delayed gratification is the ability to wait in order to obtain something that one wants
What is an example of a reason you might engage in a risky behavior?
Developmental context (“protective bubble” illusion), social learning factors (gangs/high risk peers, bad parental models), attachment factors (no structure in primary family, no consistency), neighborhood factors (unemployment, boredom, poverty)
I never turn in my homework assignments on time. One day my teacher promised me $5 for every homework assignment I turn in on time. I have now been turning my homework in on time for the past month. Did I make a personal change due to intrinsic or extrinsic forces?
Extrinsic
Show us where your thinking brain is and where your feeling brain is
Thinking brain is near your forehead; feeling brain is near the back of your head
How do you stop the cycle of anger?
The ONLY way to stop the angry behavior cycle is to change your behavior. It is not possible to change the behavior of others.
Give two examples of delay of gratification/self control in your daily life.
For example - you get paid and you save your money to buy a car instead of going shopping.
Name one example of a risk that is inherent in the environment and that we have no control over
Natural disaster, neighborhood violence, driving a car