Safety and Responsibility
Peserta pulang sangat malam tanpa mengabari host family. Keluarga khawatir.
“We are happy that you get to explore Jogja with your friend. We need to know if you will come home late, because we might be worried if we didn't know where you were. Please message us before 9 PM if your plan changes.”
Peserta membuka kulkas dan mengambil makanan/minuman tanpa bertanya. Keluarga merasa kaget karena tidak semua makanan boleh diambil bebas.
“We are happy that you are comfortable in our home. As you know, we have some food in the fridge. Let me explain our food arrangement. Some food and drinks are for everyone, but some are prepared for family needs. I’ll show you which ones you can take anytime.”
Peserta memakai pakaian yang menurut keluarga kurang sesuai saat berada di ruang keluarga atau bertemu anggota keluarga yang lebih tua.
"Thank you for being a warm presence in the house and try to engage with everyone. I need to tell you something Mas/Mbak, we usually dress more modestly in the shared areas of the house, especially when everyone is around. We wear something more covered when we are outside of our room. Would it be ok for you to also do the same?"
Peserta sering langsung masuk kamar setelah pulang dan jarang berinteraksi. Keluarga ingin tetap memberi ruang, tetapi juga ingin membangun hubungan.
“We are happy to see you so committed in your learning program. We also want you to feel included in the family. You are welcome to join us for dinner or family time whenever you feel ready.”
Peserta keluar rumah tanpa memberi tahu ke mana ia pergi atau jam berapa kembali.
“We are glad that you are comfortable exploring Jogja. Please let us know where you are going and around what time you will come back. Because we want to make sure that you are safe while staying with our family. Would you feel comfortable doing that?"
Peserta meninggalkan piring, gelas, atau barang pribadi di ruang keluarga.
“We are happy that you feel comfortable living here. In our house, we try to keep the shared area clean because everyone uses it. After eating or drinking, please bring your plate or glass back to the kitchen. Let me know if you need help to find where to put them."
Peserta mulai membahas politik, agama, atau topik sosial yang membuat anggota keluarga tidak nyaman.
“That is an interesting topic, but it can be sensitive for our family discussion. Maybe we can talk about something lighter for now, like your experience in Yogyakarta or places you want to visit.”
Peserta menggunakan vape atau rokok di teras/halaman rumah. Keluarga tidak nyaman karena ada anak kecil atau anggota keluarga lain.
“Mbak/Mas.. We are happy to have you in our home. In our home, we keep the house smoke-free because we have family members here. Please don’t smoke or vape around the house area. Maybe we can find other place near the house where you can smoke/vape.”
Peserta tidak membalas pesan selama beberapa jam ketika sedang di luar rumah.
“We are glad that you are happy to be in Jogja. When you are outside, please keep your phone reachable. Because we need to know that you are safe. A short message is enough. Is it ok for you? What would you prefer?”
Peserta memakai charger, alat mandi, makanan, atau barang pribadi anggota keluarga tanpa izin.
"We love having you here as part of the family. I would like to mention, if you need something, please ask first. Because, in our family, some things in the house are shared, but some are personal. We are happy to help you find what you need.”
Peserta berkata, “In America, we don’t do things like this,” dengan nada yang terdengar merendahkan.
“Thank you for sharing your thoughts about the cultural differences. I understand that things may be different from what you are used to. In our home and culture, this is how we usually do it. We are happy to explain, and we would also like to understand your perspective.”
Peserta membawa teman dekat atau pasangan dan menunjukkan physical affection yang membuat keluarga tidak nyaman.
We are happy that you introduce us to your friend/partner to our house. Would it be ok to maintain the physical distance for when you are in the shared family area. Because in our house, we are more comfortable keeping physical affection private.