Follow-Up Questions
Over the weekend, I went to SF.
-Provide 2 follow-up questions.
What did you do there?
Who did you go with?
Have you ever been to the ____ in SF?
Shake their hand
Say, "hello nice to meet you."
Tell them your name
Make eye contact
Smile
While you and your friend are having a conversation, you pull out your phone and begin responding to a text message.
Appropriate or Inappropriate, why?
If inappropriate, what can you do instead?
Inappropriate- It is not respectful to pull your phone out during a conversation and begin to use it/look at it. Your friend would think it's rude and would feel dismissive. They could feel hurt or disappointed that you aren't listening to what they are trying to tell you. If you need to respond to a message or check your phone, wait for them to pause in the convo and ask them if you can respond to a message really quickly or check your phone.
You feel comfortable sharing personal thoughts and feelings.
Friend
I ate my lunch really quickly today because I couldn’t wait to get outside and play basketball. My mom said, “Did you even taste your food when you inhaled it?”
Your mom is referencing that you ate your food quickly.
My math test went horribly today.
-Provide 2 follow-up questions.
What happened?
Sorry to hear. Is there anything I can do to make you feel better?
Do you want to talk about it?
*It is the end of the day and you walk out of your class to see your friend sitting alone, looking sad. Provide 2 examples of things you could do or say.
Ask, "Are you okay?" or "What's wrong?"
Give them a hug
You're about to walk into one of the hallways at school and notice another student is walking towards the same door as you. You reach the door first, open it, and hold it open for the student to walk through.
Appropriate vs. Inappropriate, why?
If inappropriate, what could you do?
Appropriate- It is the polite thing to do to hold the door open for someone. Even if you walk in first, it would be polite to also try to hold the door open for them. It would be impolite/inappropriate to walk through the door and not hold it open for that other person.
You can disagree respectfully without fear or retaliation or losing the relationship.
Friend
You have a five page essay to write for class and are dreading having to sit down at you laptop for so long. You say to your mom, “I think my fingers are going to fall off and my eyeballs will bleed if I have to stare at a computer that long.”
You are dreading doing this essay and having to stare at a computer for that long.
I saw the new Scream movie this weekend.
-Provide 2 follow-up questions.
Who did you go with?
What did you think about the movie?
How did you like it?
You are playing video games online with someone you don't know, and the person you are playing with asks if you want to meet up in real life.
Provide 2 examples of what you can do and say.
Politely decline (e.g., "No thanks.")
Block the stranger.
If they keep asking, block and report them.
You are walking in the hallway and see your teacher walking towards you. They smile at you, but you immediately take out your phone, turn away, and walk the other direction.
Appropriate vs Inappropriate, why?
If it is inappropriate, what could you do?
Inappropriate- Although it may be uncomfortable to see your teacher outside of the classroom, and you may not want to say, hi, it is socially more acceptable to walk past them and wave if they say 'hello' or greet you. If you immediately turn and walk away from them, it seems odd and some may see it as suspicious (like you're up to something you shouldn't be doing).
You know them through work, school, or mutual friends.
Acquaintance
You eat a whole bag of chips for lunch. Your friend comments. "Seems like you're hitting all the major food groups."
Your friend is referencing that you ate only chips and nothing else for lunch.
My boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with me.
-Provide 2 follow-up questions.
How are you doing/feeling?
Do you want to talk about it?
What happened?
You and your friend both have to write an essay on the same book. You both decide to work together on the essay and your friend suggests turning in the same essay since you have different teachers.
Provide 2 examples of things you can do and/or say to decline.
"I don't think that is okay."
"I think we should write our own essays."
You are talking to your crush. You say you need to go because your mom is picking you up. You go in for a hug, but your crush starts to take a few steps back/lean away from you.
Appropriate vs. Inappropriate, why?
If it is inappropriate, what could you do?
Inappropriate- You cannot assume someone wants a hug. It would be more appropriate to ask them if you can give them a hug or you can stick out your hand to high-five or fist-bump. Some people do not like to be touched. It is always better to ask for consent.
You wouldn't likely call them in a crisis.
Acquaintance
Your mom is doing the laundry and says, “I love when the cleaning fairy comes to do all the chores.”
Your mom may be implying she wants help with the laundry or clean up around the house.
My parents grounded me for this weekend.
-Provide 2 follow-up questions.
What happened?
Why did they ground you?
How long are you grounded for?
You are working in a group for a research project. You make a suggestion for the project, but one of your group members dismisses your idea.
Provide 2 examples of things you can do and/or say to advocate for yourself.
"Can we collaborate on this then?"
"Can you tell me more?"
"Can you explain why____?"
Try to provide more evidence to support your idea.
Your coworker is always 5-10 minutes late to work. You are always early to work, so the coworker asks if you will start clocking in for them.
Appropriate vs Inappropriate, why?
If it is inappropriate, what could you do?
Inappropriate- Although you want to help out your coworker, this is unethical, and you could get in trouble for not being truthful. If your boss catches you, you and your co-worker could be fired. You can politely decline (e.g., "Sorry, but I don't think that's right" or "Sorry, but I can't do that for you. We would get in trouble").
This person is pleasant and friendly, but not deeply connected.
Acquaintance
You go to your friends house to hang out and when you get there you ask, "Did I hear you say you just got the newest Call of Duty game?"
You are implying that you want to play Call of Duty with them.