Angry Talk
Boundary test
Healthy/ Unhealthy
Decision Talk
All the other stuff
100
Is it ok to yell at someone when you are mad?
No
100
Should you hug a stranger
No
100
Is it important to talk about things that upset you?
Yes
100
Name some routine decisions we make daily.
Deciding whether to take a shower
Choosing what to eat
To get up or to hit snooze button.
We decide how we respond to things that happen today.
100
Is this this wanted or unwanted?
Unwanted-
How can you tell?
200
Name a way that you deal with feeling sad or disappointed.
examples:
Talk to a friend
cry
nap
exercise
cuddle with a pet
200
Can you ever date a staff member or therapist who works with you?
No - Never!
200
Name 2 red flags that a relationship might be unhealthy or abusive
If someone is inpatient with people (or with you)
If someone yells at others over small things
If someone hits you, throws things or calls you names
If they try to keep you from your friends and family
If they are jealous when you spend time with others
200
What should you do before you make BIG decsions?
Before making a decision, especially an important one, take a moment to think it through. Don't be afraid to ask questions or do research. The more informed you are, the better your decision is likely to be.
200
When we say "I love you" to people, does it always mean the same thing?
No, we can love our family different from our friends and different from a romantic partner.
300
List at least 2 things that are aggressive communication styles.
Points fingers or makes fists
Speaks loud or yells
uses curse words at you
(What else could be aggressive communication?)
300
Does this hug look like it is wanted?
Unwanted
NO-
We all have our own level of comfort- we should ask or watch body language to identify everyone's personal comfort.
300
Name 2 characteristics of a healthy relationship
Here is a few examples.
They care about how you feel
You can both talk about your feelings when you are upset.
You are both considerate of each other's time.
You support each other's goals.
You encourage each other to spend time with other friends.
(More- List as shared)
300
What are some daily decisions we make nearly every day?
Hit snooze or get up when alarms goes off
Make our bed or not
Brush our teeth or not
300
Are the people in one another’s personal space?
Yes. Most Definitely
How can you tell?
How do you respond to someone not respecting your personal space?
400
Can being uncomfortable, scared, or feel unsafe, change your mood and how you treat people or act?
Yes. It can come across that you are mad, or sad, or angry at someone when it really isn't about them and more about how you "feel".
400
Where are good places to meet someone that you do not know very well for a get together or date?
Public places like restaurants, coffee shops, the mall, movies etc. Always let staff or family know before.
400
Name 3 Characteristics that would describe an unhealthy relationship.
Some Examples: (There are lots of right answers)
When someone has demands things too quickly.
They have high expectations, want to "claim you"
Relationships that move too quickly
They cheat.
They let you down (maybe lie about) something they will or won't do.
Control what you do when you are apart. (or seem to keep you from your loved ones and friends)
Have frequent moments of being angry or irritated.
Frequently make you feel guilty if you don't do what they want you to do.
Makes you feel like you aren't being all they hope you would be. Guilting you to do things you don't want to do.
400
Quick Decisions: Involve little planning or thought
Deciding what to watch on TV
Choosing whether to answer a phone call
400
Give an example of how our relationships change us or how a good relationship feels.
it feels good to be wanted, appreciated and safe.
500
What are two things you can do when you are feeling frustrated?
These are some Examples:
Identify your "Why"- why are you frustrated?
(then do something soothing)
Breathe deeply and look at the situation again
Try something different - another way to achieve your goal.
Also: take a walk, take a nap, call a friend.
500
How long should you wait before telling someone you love them? What indicators should you look for?
You should know them well enough to trust them.
This typically takes at least few months, lots of time to get to know someone.
500
If your partner throws things when they are mad, but then apologizes, is that a healthy or unhealthy relationship? Why?
Unhealthy.
Apologizing after is a part of the abuse cycle.
If they are violent, the relationship is unhealthy.
500
Impulsive Decisions:
Intense choices driven by feelings. These decisions are often made without considering options
Give one example
Blurting something out
Buying something on a whim
Running across the street without looking
Engaging in sexual touch without discussion
List other good answers
500
What can you do if someone wants to be your boyfriend or girlfriend and you do not think of them like that or are not ready for that kind of relationship?
It is important to talk honestly with them so you do not lead them on and you can both have the same expectations.