Validation, Praise, or Reassurance?
That sounds like a really hard situation.
Validation!
Instead of either/or, we use ____/_____
Both/And!
I'm definitely going to fail my test!
Catastrophizing
I'm sure your overall grade will be okay no matter how you did on the final.
Reassurance
Dialectics
When multiple things that are seemingly opposite can be true at the same time.
I did well in that one basketball game because I just got lucky
Disqualifying the positives
Great work! I'm SO proud of how hard you worked on your homework tonight.
Praise
Positive Reinforcement
The act of rewarding a positive behavior in order to encourage it to happen again in the future.
What can we look for to validate?
Thoughts, feelings, behaviors
Ugh, I shouldn't be so upset about this, it's just one test.
"Should" Statements
Oh wow, I can't imagine what that situation was like. I can totally see why you are feeling upset.
Validation!
Validation
Skill that communicates to another person that their feelings, thoughts, and actions make sense and are understandable to you in a particular situation.
What is the core dialectic in DBT? Balancing ____ & ____.
Acceptance & Change!
They clearly don't think I'll do a good job on this assignment
Mind Reading
I love that you cleaned your room! I can imagine it was challenging to get that all done today - you must have worked hard.
Praise & Validation!
Thinking Mistakes
Irrational beliefs/thinking styles that contribute to uncomfortable emotions and unwanted behavior.
I failed my final exam - I might as well not even go back to school after break
All-or-Nothing Thinking