Self Care
My Greenhouse
Tools
Rebuilding Identity
Red Flags
100

This kind of self-care involves prayer, scripture study, and other forms of worship.

Spiritual

100

You use this tool in your greenhouse to keep people out that aren't safe.

Boundaries

100

This allitarive tool helps you identify your negative emotions and turn them into positive ones.

What is NiNiFiFi

100

When trauma hits, women may lose their sense of this.

Identity

100

When someone makes you question your reality through lying and manipulating.

Gaslighting

200

This kind of self-care involves showering, eating well, and moving your body.

Physical

200

Getting rid of the lies, fear, and unhealthy patterns in your greenhouse and life.

Pulling weeds

200

This tool helps you know if it's a good time to have a conversation with your spouse.

Weather Checking
200

Reconnecting with this helps anchor your identity and help build your sense of self.

Values System

200

If someone mocks you when you share your feelings, they are unable to have this kind of intimacy.

Emotional Intimacy

300

This kind of self-care includes reading books and listening to podcasts

Intellectual

300

When you add intentionality to learning truths, building good habits, and rebuilding your identity in the greenhouse.

Planting

300

This tool is used when we learn to rely on ourselves and God, not our spouse.

What is Pioneer Woman Mode

300

Your nervous system shifts into this mode after trauma instead of focusing on self-expression and identity.

Survival mode.

300

When someone tells you who you can talk to, controls your money, or limits your independence.

Being Controlling

400

This kind of self-care includes training your brain to accurately name feelings, and your body to properly show them.

Emotional

400

When you take care of yourself with self-care and your connection to God

Watering

400

This tool helps us own what's ours, and lets go of what's his.

Circle of control

400

You have this because you are a daughter of a Heavenly Father who loves you.

WORTH

400

This pattern uses spiritual beliefs, practices, or ideas to avoid facing unresolved emotional pain, psychological wounds, or difficult truths 

Spiritual Bypassing

500

This kind of self-care includes getting yourself out more often, or staying home more often, depending on your personality.

Social

500

You use this tool to assess how your goals are going and continue moving yourself forward to become the woman you want to be

DPAR

500

We use this tool when we prepare ourselves for the long healing and recovery journey ahead of us.

Packing our wagon.

500

This "inner compass" gets scrambled during betrayal trauma

Intuition

500

Shutting down conversation, giving the silent treatment, or refusing to engage when you attempt to resolve conflict. 

Stonewalling