Gimmie That
This interpersonal effectiveness skill is used to get what you want without hurting others or yourself.
DEARMAN
This skill is used to help you have self-respect in your relationships with others.
FAST
This DBT skill Acronym teaches us how to approach difficult situations with others or difficult conversations without being hostile.
GIVE
This skill in DBT skill acronym encourages us to consider the other person when interacting with others.
THINK
3 men fell out of the boat while fishing. All 3 men went under water, but only 1 got their hair wet, WHY?
the other 2 were bald.
Tell me 3 skills that the letter acronyms of DEARMAN stand for.
DESCRIBE, EXPRESS, ASSERT, REINFORCE, MINDFUL, APPEAR CONFIDENT, NEGOTIATE
This skill teaches us the importance thinking about our own needs as well as others, and remembering not to put other peoples needs before us. This skill DOES NOT mean that everyone should get the same thing.
FAIR
When you use this approach, rather than a harsh approach, people will typically respond better to you.
Gentle Approach
When you are putting yourself in someone else's shoes, you are not actually trying their shoes on, but rather considering their own feelings and trying to understand them. When you do this, you are using this THINK skill.
Have Empathy.
When everything goes wrong, what can you always count on?
Your Fingers
APPEAR CONFIDENT
The A in FAST stands for not apologizing unnecessarily. Give me an example of something you do not need to apologize for.
EX:
For liking different things, for not wanting to do what someone else wants to do, ETC.
Just Smile :) Having a soft expression and using humor can help to set a calm tone and reduce tension, making the conversation EASIER.
Easy Manner
Think teaches us the importance of showing kindness to others. Name 3 ways you can show kindness in your relationships with others.
ex:
Say nice things to them, offer to help them with a task, smile and wave at them, etc.
You will buy me to eat, but you will never eat me, what am I?
A Plate
You are in class and are feeling tired. It is getting hard to pay attention to your teacher, and you know she wants you to be able to focus. You know that if you are able to get a drink and stand while you work, you will be more focused. Use DEARMAN to demonstrate how you can ask for what you need.
Ex: * raise hand and wait to be called on*
Mrs. McMillian , I would like to get a drink and stand at my seat. I am feeling tired and it is making it hard to focus. If you will let me get and drink of water and then stand at my seat, I will be able to listen to you better.
"It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to your enemies, its takes a great deal more to stand up to your friends. "
This quote is all about using this FAST skill.
Stick up for Your Values
Tommy is feeling disappointed because he was supposed to go so his dad this weekend, but his dad has to work instead. Give an example of how to Validate Tommy's feelings.
Ex:
You were really looking forward to seeing your dad and now you don't get to. It makes sense that you are feeling disappointed.
Feeling disappointed when you don't get to do something you were looking forward to is okay.
The teacher announced that the class would have 20 minutes of free time and told people they could work on their homework during this time if they didn't want to have to take it home. During this time Nina noticed two of her friends were not looking at her, and were not talking to her. Give 1 unhelpful, and 1 helpful interpretation of this scenario.
Her friends are mad at her and do not want to talk to her.
Her friends want to get their work done, so they can play after school.
Why are Teddy Bears never hungry?
Because they are always stuffed
When using DEARMAN, it is important to be aware of who you are asking, when you are asking, your tone of voice when asking, and whether or not it is a reasonable request, this is called being what?
MINDFUL
Honesty is always the best policy. This skill teaches kids not only not to lie to others, but to be honest with themselves.
Be Truthful
Showing interest in what others are saying is a great way to improve your relationships with others. Name 3 ways you can show you are interested in what others are saying.
EX: eye contact, ask questions, face the person talking, don't interrupt, stay on topic, nod your head, appropriate facial expressions ( if they say something surprising show this on your face).
It is easy to notice the things you don't like about someone when you are mad at them. This skill encourages use to try to see the good in others, even if we do not like that person or are mad at them.
Notice the Other
What fruit can you never cheer up?
A Blueberry