Healthy Relationships
What is the definition of a healthy relationship
Formal response:
You value one another's beliefs and opinions and love one another for who you are as a person. You feel comfortable setting boundaries and are confident that the other person will respect those boundaries. They cheer for you when you achieve something, support your hard work and dreams, and appreciate you.
What are 5 signs of an unhealthy relationships?
Formal response: intensity, possessiveness, manipulation, isolation, sabotage, belittling, guilting, volatility, betrayal, and deflecting responsibility
An enthusiastic yes, not just the absence of no
In the Kissing Booth 2 and in Grey's Anatomy what is similar in both clips?
Formal Response: the men are the ones facilitating these conversations..
--> Consent is beyond gender norms (anyone can start it and anyone can facilitate the conversation)
What is the first step in helping a friend ?
Start the conversation
Formal Response:
Comfortable pace, trust, honesty, independence, respect, equality, kindness, taking responsibility, healthy conflict, & fun
What sign did Dean show in Gilmore Girls?
NOOOOO
consent must be verbally and physically affirmed !!!
What are some of the unhealthy and nonconsensual actions that occur in the scene of Maleficient?
Formal Response: drugging Maleficent, invading another person's bodily autonomy
Why is it important for you to have your own boundaries when supporting your friend?
Response: In order to become a support your friend you need to have a healthy boundary of knowing your limitations and your role.
You are apart of their support system not THEIR WHOLE support system
What type of relationship was Elle and Noah's relationship (Kissing Booth 2)?
Formal response: Had toxic traits/ signs but also had a mixture of healthy signs
What is isolation? How does isolation contribute to an unhealthy relationship?
Isolation: Partner creates a person to disconnect from their friends and spend only their time with them.
What are the acronym of consent?
FRIES,
freely given
Reversible
Informed
Enthusiastic
Specific
How does the media romanticize unhealthy relationships? What is an example of this?
What are some resources you can refer to your friend?
1. Wellness Center (at Granada)
2. love is Respect
3. yesmeansyes@canvas.net
4. OneLove
What did the clip of Grey's Anatomy illustrate how men are portrayed in the "role" of relationships?
formal response:
1. initiator
2. control of the conversation
? What is an example of volatility in any of the videos we saw?
Formal Response: If your partner's anger, confuses, intimidates, or scares you that's a big problem.
When a person regularly lashes out physically or verbally using anger as an excuse that is abuse.
If someone says yes once for an act, does that mean their partner can do that act again without asking?
Formal response: (frozen) ask for consent and (Schitt's Creek) value and empathize with your partner's emotions
How can you start the conversation?
"Hey I noticed we haven't been able to see you this week, is everything okay?"
"I'm here if you need me to listen or be supportive."
Do you think we should uphold the standards of (Schitt's Creek's~David and Patrick) in our relationships as teens?
Formal Response: Yes (in the context) if a partnership is ready to have sexual themes or commit to a mature step in the relationship why shouldn't they be able to talk about consent or know what healthy relationships?
Why do we people stay in unhealthy relationships?
Formal Response: There are lots of reasons why people stay including safety, finances, logistics, and love. Maybe there are still some good things that people see in their relationships or hope things will get better or its their job to save them.
Maybe they’re afraid of what will happen if they try to leave, believe their partner’s behavior is their fault, or feel embarrassed to admit what is happening. Maybe they want to leave, but don’t know how or don’t want to be alone.
No matter why someone stays in a relationship, they are not responsible or asking for the abuse.
What is the role of healthy boundaries in initiating consent?
Formal Response: It teaches us how to respect ourselves and value ourselves emotionally, mentally, and physically.
How is masculinity portrayed in the media when discussing sexual themes?
Formal response: there is a theme of toxic masculinity: "persistence is key" or "men must start the conversation or be more aggressive"
If you feel a situation is "over your head" (meaning you do not know how to respond or you feel your friend is in danger) what should you do?
Disclosing to a professional about what is going on!