Name one feeling you might have when something doesn't go your way.
Mad, sad, frustrated, disappointed....
Name something that might make a kid feel frustrated.
Losing a game, waiting, being told no, having to share....
What is a thought?
Something you can to yourself in your mind
Name one way to calm your body.
Take slow breaths, count to five, ask for a break, get help....
You are waiting to play with a toy, but another student gets it first. You feel ____. What can you do instead of grabbing it from him?
Mad, angry, annoyed...
Wait my turn, ask to use it next, ask the teacher for help...
How can your body tell you that you're getting angry?
Face gets hot, hands tighten up, heart beats faster, body feels tense.....
Impatient, frustrated, bored, upset....
If you think "That's not fair!" what feeling might you have?
Angry, frustrated, disappointed...
What are three slow breaths good for?
They can help your body slow down so you can think before acting
A classmate accidentally bumps into you while lining up. You feel like pushing them back. What should you do instead?
Keep your hands to yourself, tell the teacher, ask to go to the coping corner....
Can you feel angry and still make a safe choice?
Yes! It is okay to be angry, it is not okay to hurt others.
What could make you upset during a game?
Losing, having to wait, making a mistake, thinking the rules are not fair, someone cheating....
If you think, "He skipped me in line on purpose," could there be another explanation?
Yes! It might have been an accident, or he might not have seen you. You can ask what happened.
What can you do when your anger starts getting bigger?
Notice your body clues, stop, take 3 deep breaths, step away, ask an adult for help, go to the coping corner....
You are playing football outside and miss a catch. You feel ____. What is a safe action you can do?
Take a few slow breaths, tell myself I can try again, tell the teacher how I feel, sit out of the game until I feel calm....
What are two signs that your anger is building up?
Clenching fists, yelling, feeling hot, breathing fast, heart racing....
What are some positive things you can do when an adult tells you "no"?
Take a breath, use calm words, ask why, choose something else....
Change "I can't handle this!" into a more helpful thought.
"This is hard, but I can try"
"I can calm down and ask for help"
Stop:
Think:
Choose:
A classmate says "You can't play with us!" You feel _____. What are two safe choices you can make?
Use calm words to explain how you feel, walk away, tell a trusted adult, take deep breaths, color or draw, write it in a journal....
What is the difference between feeling angry and hurting others?
Anger is a feeling
Hurting others is a behavior (aggression)
You can feel angry while keeping your body safe!
What is a trigger? Give an example of one of your triggers and how you can safely handle it!
A trigger is something that starts a strong feeling or causes a reaction.
How can changing your thoughts change what you do next?
A helpful thought helps you calm down, think of other explanations, and choose a safer action instead!
Think of a frustrating situation and demonstrate two coping strategies
Belly breathing, square breathing, calm down corner, drawing/coloring, asking an adult for help, write it down, jump around, relax muscles....
You get angry because a classmate takes something from your desk. You push the classmate. The teacher asks what happened. What should you do now and what could you do differently next time?
Tell the truth, make sure the classmate gets help, take responsibility, apologize to your friend
Next time, keep your hands safe, use your words, ask the teacher for help