Zones of Regulation
True or False - The Red Zone is bad
False (extra 100 points to explaining why)
What is whole body listening?
Listening with your hands, feet, ears, mouth, eyes, heart, brain
What does it mean to keep your brain and body in the group?
Your paying attention to what is happening in the group and you are physically present.
100 bonus points - How do you make others feel when your brain/body is NOT in the group
Define aggressive, passive, passive-aggressive, assertiveness
Aggressive: I win-you lose (until you get in trouble.. then you lose), yelling, screaming, physical
Passive: I lose, your win - letting the other person get away with unexpected behaviours
Passive-Aggressive: I lose, your lose, you are ok with not getting what you want but also make the other person not get what they want
Assertive: I win, you win - standing up for yourself in a positive way
Give an example of a small, medium and big problem
Small - I can solve on my own
Medium - I need an adult to help
Big - emergency - get help immediately
Name one tool for each Zone for the home
Example of Tools: breathing, take a break, ask for help, size of my problem, jumping jacks etc.
What does it mean to listen with your eyes?
Your eyes are pointed towards the person who was talking.
What is a personal space bubble?
Keeping a 1-arm length or hula hoop length away from people
(100) Bonus points for demonstrating personal space
Act out an aggressive response to a kid at school kicks your chair
Ie. Yelling, screaming, hitting
Who is Superflex?
He helps us be a good problem solving and be flexile.
Bonus - name one unthinkable (bad guy)
Name one tool for each Zone at school
Example: take a break at cubby, get help from teacher, chair push-ups, drink water etc.
What does it mean to listen with your brain and your heart?
You are thinking about what the other person is saying and you care about what they are saying
Define expected vs unexpected
Expected - behaviours we do that make others feel good and comfortable and want to spend time with us
Unexpected - behaviours that make others feel uncomfortable and don't want to spend time with us
Act out a passive response to someone says something mean to you
Walk away, don't say anything
Why do we want our reaction to match the size of the problem?
It is unexpected to have a big reaction to a small problem
Name two times it is expected to be in the Yellow Zone at school
Ex. Recess, Classroom party, Free time
Provide an example of an unexpected way to start a conversation
Provide an example of an expected way to start a conversation
Unexpected - DUDDDEEEE SUPPPP???
Expected - Hi, how are you?
Name 2 expected behaviours for a classroom and 2 unexpected
Ex.
Expected - raise hand to talk, listen to teacher, following the class plan, keep hands to yourself, do your work when asked
Unexpected - blurt out answers, distract peers, ignore teachers instructions, body out of the group
etc.
Act out an assertive response to your friend cheating in a game
Standing up for yourself, using I-message, staying calm and asking for what you want
Rate the size of the problem: Your Mom won't let you play on the I-pad
Small
Bonus - What is an expected way to solve this problem
Give an example of an action you might do to put someone else in each of the Zones
Ex.
Blue - laugh at someone
Green - give someone a compliment
Yellow - Ignore someone
Red - Hit someone
Name 5 characteristics of a good conversation
Ex.
- facing person
- whole body listening
- 50/50 talking
- ask questions
- body faces person
- appropriate personal space
What is the Social Thinking Boomerang?
When we do something unexpected it gives others bad thoughts/feelings and leads to an action we do not like. This ultimately ends up getting us bad thoughts and feelings.
Bonus Points - If you can give an example (i.e. if you scream at your parents they might not give you screen time)
What is an I-message?
I feel _________ when _____, next time _______.
Bonus: Give an I-message to your brother not letting you play a video game.
What is the name of your facilitators
Talia and Brittany
Bonus - What is our volunteer's name