Importance of boundaries
Why are boundaries created?
Boundaries are created to set limits on what you will and won't accept.
Give an example of bad personal boundaries.
pushing, hitting, touching without permission, etc
True of False? Every person has the same personal boundaries.
False
Give an APPROPRIATE example of a verbal or physical boundary crossing.
•Verbal: insulting, name calling, threatening, etc.
•Physical (Pushing, shoving, hitting, kicking, etc.)
Why is it good to know someone's boundaries?
-You can spend time with that person in a way that makes them comfortable and calm!
-It shows respect!
-It shows that you are a safe person
This is something you should be doing FIRST, before touching someone's body/belongings.
What is asking for permission?
No! ask for permission first PLEASE.
What happens if you DON'T respect someone's boundaries
-They may not trust you
-They might not want to play with you
-they may become upset with you.
What is one way you can respond to someone setting a boundary?
"Okay", "Thanks for letting me know", "My bad" , and Stop doing the thing you were doing
When someone is in my way, I should say this to get them to move?
"Excuse me"
You hear someone say that they are going to fight your friend after school. What should you do first?:
a) Give them a knuckle sandwich
b) Warn your friend
c) Tell an Adult and ask for help
C! Let an adult know and ask for help
How many times should someone have to ask you to respect their boundaries?
ONCE! If they have to ask you multiple times that means you are not respecting their boundaries.
In general, How much personal space should you give someone?
Arms length (around 2-3 feet)
Give an APPROPRIATE example of a time where you may have to be in someone's personal space bubble. (inside their personal boundary)
in line, sports, working as a group, etc.
A staff member/teacher/other kid tries to talk with you while you are upset but you don't feel ready to talk. should you
A) Walk off
B) Yell "Shut up!"
C) ask for space
C.
Do your boundaries matter more than someone else's?
No! everyone's boundaries matter and deserve to be respected.
This is something that allows you to recognize & understand the feelings of others. Hint: Try on someone else's shoes!
Empathy
True or False: If someone sets a boundary with me, that means they do not like me.
False
A friend is upset because someone hit them: is it appropriate to give them a hug without asking?
Inappropriate! Always ask for permission to touch someone if they are upset.