Interpersonal Effectiveness
What are the 3 goals of the interpersonal effectiveness chapter?
2. Asking for what you want/need and getting it often
3. Keeping your self respect
Define what values are.
Values are things in life that you find most important.
How many Acronyms have we learned in this chapter?
3!
What are the 4 parts of an I statement?
I feel ____ when ____ because ___. What I need/want from you is ____.
What is a boundary?
A limit we use to navigate relationships.
What is an Interpersonal Obstacle?
Something that makes it difficult to share your feelings with others in order to connect with them.
Give two examples of personal values someone can have.
Open Ended!
What do you use the GIVE skill for?
To maintain relationships and make new ones.
If you are feeling attacked, what emotion is associated with that?
Scared/Angry.
(Name all 6 with 2 examples WITHOUT looking at your folder and you'll double your points!)
Physical-Personal Space and Privacy
Romantic-Consent and understanding of what the other person wants
Intellectual-Thoughts and Opinions
Emotional- Validating feelings, and setting limits on what you share
Material- Possessions and Money
Time- managing time for things in your life, and limiting the time you give to others.
What are 2 obstacles to Interpersonal effectiveness?
(Name all five without looking at your folder and get double the points)!
Old relationship patterns
Identifying your needs
Negative Predictions
Overwhelming Emotions
Situations out of our control
Why is it important to stay true to your values?
Its important to identify your own values so we can be true to ourselves.
To help you keep your self respect.
If you are feeling ignored, what is the unmet need associated with that?
Connection, belonging, inclusion, community, participation
What are the 3 boundary styles? Name all 3 and give a characteristic for each style.
Rigid-keeps others at a distance
Loose/Porous-dependent on others opinions because they want to be liked
Healthy-Shares personal information appropriately
Identify 3 toxic relationship patterns
Guilt tripping
Giving the Silent treatment
Withdrawing Affection
Not sharing your feelings/needs becasue your afraid of losing the relationship
Belittling others
Expecting someone to "fix" you
Bringing up an issue by blaming the other person
If someone values friendship, how can they show other people that friendship is important to them? Give atleast two examples.
Respecting when their friends boundaries
Making time to see their friends
What is the purpose of DEARMAN?
To resolve conflicts and get what you want more often.
If you are feeling pressured, what is the emotion and unmet need associated with that?
Emotion- anxious, resentful, overwhelmed
Unmet need-relaxation, clarity, space, consideration
What is the difference between rigid and loose/porous boundaries? Give two examples of each.
Rigid- Takes everything personally, quick to cut people out of your life over small things.
Loose-Overshares personal information at inappropriate times, doesn't speak up when being mistreated.
Why is identifying what you need considered an interpersonal obstacle? How can you fix this issue?
It can be difficult to identify what we need from someone in conflict or when we are very mad/upset.
Take time to identify what you need before resolving a conflict. Think about what you need from them short term vs long term.
Name 5 values that are important to you and give an example of how you uphold them in your life.
Open Ended!
Name an acronym skill, what each letter stands for, and how to apply it.
GIVE
FAST
DEARMAN
If you are feeling unloved, what is the emotion and unmet need associated with that?
Emotion- sad, bewildered, frustrated
Unmet need- love, appreciation, empathy, connection, community
What is Consent? Why is it important? What happens when consent is not given?
What you allow another person to do/say around you.
Consent is important because it is something that has to be given to another person, especially in regards to relationships.
If consent is not given, then a boundary is being crossed which can lead to other problems down the line such as breaking trust within the relationship.