Mean Moment
What is a mean moment?
A one-time unkind action or comment that hurts someone's feelings.
What is a conflict?
A disagreement or problem between people.
What are two important features of bullying?
Repeated aggressive behavior and a real or perceived power imbalance.
What does STOP mean?
Pause before reacting; take a breath.
What is an upstander?
Someone who takes safe action to support a person being mistreated.
Someone says, 'Your drawing looks terrible!' What might you do?
Stay calm, use assertive words, or walk away.
Two students want to be team captain. What type of situation is this?
A conflict.
A group repeatedly mocks one student and pressures others to join in. What might this be?
Bullying.
What does THINK mean?
Identify the problem, feelings, and possible consequences.
Your group member's idea is different from yours. What should you do?
Listen respectfully and consider their idea.
You accidentally make a joke that hurts someone's feelings. What could you do to make it right?
Apologize sincerely and try to make things right.
Name one respectful way to solve a disagreement.
Listen, take turns speaking, compromise, or find a fair solution.
Should a student have to handle bullying alone?
No. Tell a trusted adult and seek support.
What does CHOOSE mean?
Select a safe, respectful response.
Someone is left out of a group activity. What could you do?
Invite them to join or help them find a welcoming group.
Someone makes one rude comment during an argument. Does that automatically mean bullying?
No. Consider the context, pattern, and power imbalance.
Your partner rejects every idea you suggest. What could you say?
'I want to hear your ideas, too. Can we find a solution that uses both of our ideas?'
You see someone being targeted repeatedly. Name one safe way to be an upstander.
Support the student, refuse to join in, include them, or report it to an adult.
A classmate insults you. Give one example for each step.
Stop: breathe. Think: consider options. Choose: respond calmly or walk away.
Your friends laugh at a hurtful joke. How can you respond without escalating the situation?
Don't join in; say something respectful, redirect the conversation, or get adult help.
You see a classmate being laughed at after making a mistake. Name two ways to help.
Include them, offer support, interrupt unkind behavior safely, or get help if needed.
Both students think they are right. What three steps could help them work it out?
Calm down, listen to each perspective, and agree on a fair solution or seek help.
Why is repeated bullying different from an ordinary disagreement?
Bullying involves repeated aggressive behavior and a power imbalance; it is not simply two people disagreeing as equals.
Your friend wants you to post an embarrassing picture of another student. Use all three steps.
Stop: don't post it. Think: it could hurt or embarrass the student. Choose: refuse, don't share it, and seek help if needed.
Your team disagrees about a solution to a social problem. How can you make sure everyone participates?
Take turns, listen to each person, consider different ideas, and agree on a safe solution together.