Week 1
Something you can say to start a conversation?
What is: hello/how are you
Making friends on the playground during recess, lunchroom during nutrition breaks, on school bus, schoolyard, park after school
What is: good places and good times to make friends
"Just calling to see how you're doing"
"I haven't talked to you in a while"
What is: reasons for starting a conversation - Cover Story
“How many times will the other kids usually say ‘no’ if you ask to join 10 different groups of kids playing?”
What is: 5 out of 10
Ask the other person about themselves
After they finish- you answer your own questions
Share something related about yourself
What is: Trading information
Making friends during class- when teacher is talking/ when the other kid is working, on the road, in the washroom
What is: Bad places and bad times to make friends
"I need to finish my homework"
"My mom needs to use the phone"
What is: Reason for ending/ leaving the conversation - Cover Story
Watch
Wait
Ask
If they say no, don't argue
What is: Slipping in
Something you did to them before (rejected them, got them in trouble with the teacher, etc.)
Other child doesn’t want to meet new friends
They misunderstood what you wanted to do
They didn’t feel like playing with you just then
What is: Reasons for being turned down
Identify things you can talk about
Identify activities you can do together
Find out what they do not like to do
What is: Common Interests
When two people talk and learn how to enjoy each other
What is: A Conversation
"My mom asked me to call you"
"My teacher said I have to call you"
What is: Bad cover story
"That's not how we play that game, you have to take turns"
"You are out now so I am joining in"
What is: Don'ts of Slipping in
Treat others as you would have them treat you.
Say it differently (e.g., they say “no” and you point out that they are short two people on their side)
Try again later (another day).
What is: What to do next time if you get rejected the 1st time
Give the person a chance to ask a question
Pause occasionally
If they don't say anything follow up with another question
What is: Share the Conversation
When 1 person talks and not let anyone else have a chance.
What is: A Conversation Hog
You played too rough last time and hurt other kids
Watch for others and show concern when they are hurt
What is: reason for being turned down and what to do next time
Is the other person participating in the conversation
Is there eye contact
Are they trying to walk away
What is their body language
What is: is the other person interested.
Sharing the conversation
Asking and then answering your own questions
Not getting too personal before getting to know the person
What is: Rules of having a conversation
In a conversation, be sure to do this so you are not the one talking all of the time and hogging the conversation?
What is: turn taking/taking turns?
Don't argue
Find someone else to play with
Try again another day
What is: If they say no to you joining their game or conversation
These are what people watch for on a person's face so they will know what to do and what to say?
What are cues?