Building/Maintaining Relationships
What does the G in "GIVE" skill stand for?
What is "Be Gentle"
What are 2 examples of things that stop us from achieving our goals in relationships?
What is: Lack of Skill, Worry thoughts, emotions, can't decide, or the environment
What does the F in "FAST" stand for?
What is Be Fair - to ourselves and the other person
Give 1 example of a dialectical dilemma.
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What is the goal of using your GIVE Skills?
What is to build/maintain relationships. To keep relationships healthy.
What is the goal of using Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills?
What is to improve communication with others and ourselves
What is the goal of using your FAST skills?
What to is keep our self respect and feel better about ourselves after an interaction
Name 2 Examples of Thinking Mistakes
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What is it called when you show that you understand the other person's feelings or opinions, without being judgmental?
What is Validation.
What skill do we use to get somebody to do something that we want or need?
What is the DEARMAN skill
Give an example for how you could practice No Apologies
What is not apologizing for things that are not my fault, for your behavior, making a request, for being yourself
What is 1 Hint to Think and Act more Dialectically?
Demonstrate how you would use an Easy Manner
What is SMILING, using humor, using nonthreatening body language, or leaving your attitude at the door
Demonstrate how your emotions could get in your way of communicating with others
What is Emotion mind controls what we do and say instead of using skills
What does the S in "FAST" Skill stand for?
What is Stick to Values
Dialectics is a way of thinking that helps us get out of extremes, see the grey of the situation, get unstuck from conflicts, be more flexible, and avoid assumptions/blaming/judgments.
What does the I in "GIVE" skill stand for? How would you demonstrate this?
What is "Acting Interested" and you can demonstrate this by listening, showing interest in what the other person is saying, not interrupting or talking over them, maintaining eye contact
Demonstrate how you would use the DEARMAN skill
What is: DESCRIBE, EXPRESS, ASSERT, REINFORCE, BE MINDFUL, APPEAR CONFIDENT, and NEGOTIATE
Give an example of 1 way you can use the FAST skill within an important relationship
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Give an example of 2 things that can both be true
What is "I am doing the best I can, and I need to do better, try harder, and be more motivated to change"