Letter in DEAR MAN used when you stick to the facts of the current situation.
What is D: Describe.
Name one of the three Don'ts mentioned in the letter G
Don’t attack, threat, judge
What is your primary goal when using FAST?
Maintaining self-respect
Express yourself using an "I" Statement: "I feel __________ because ________________."
Keeping and maintaining healthy relationships describes what skill?
GIVE Skills
Component of DEARMAN where you make your intentions clearly known by ASKING for what you want or SAYING NO clearly.
What is A: ASSERT.
Name one thing you can validate
Facts of a situation, Emotions, Beliefs, Opinions, Thoughts, Suffering and struggles
Can you apologize during FAST?
Yes
Give a Wise Mind Statement for the following worry thought:
"If I say, "no," they'll be really angry at me."
"If I say no to people and they get angry, it doesn't mean I should have said yes."
"I can deal with it if she or he is upset with me."
Asking for something, resolving a problem, or wanting people to take you seriously refers to what interpersonal skill?
DEAR MAN Skills
Component of DEAR MAN where you let others know the positive benefits, or clarify the negative consequences of not getting what you want or need.
What is R: Reinforce.
Component of GIVE where you might smile and use humor to lighten the mood.
E - easy manner
FAST involves sticking to your values. Which one of the following is NOT a value?
Give a Wise Mind Statement for the following worry thought:
"Why bother asking? It won't make a difference anyway."
"Just because I didn't get what I wanted last time does not mean that if I ask skillfully this time that I won't get it."
"I can handle it if I don't get what I want or need."
Give an example of a worry thought.
Examples: "They won't like me," "He will break up with me," "I'm such a bad person," "I don't deserve this," "I won't do it right," "I'm such a loser."
Be willing to GIVE TO GET describes what skill in DEAR MAN?
N: Negotiate
True or False – validation is Fixing, offering solutions, or giving advice.
False
Which one of the following is an example of not being Truthful?
all of the above
Name 2 of the 6 factors to consider in asking for what you want or saying "no" to an unwanted request:
1. Priorities
2. Capability
3. Timeliness
4. Preparation
5. Relationship
6. Give and take
In GIVE Skills, what are these statements examples of: "I can understand how you feel and..." "I realize this is hard..." "I see you are busy, and..." "That must have felt..."
Validate
What is your primary goal for using DEAR MAN?
Getting what you want
Name three ways you can Act Interested
eye contact, active/reflective listening, nodding, not interrupting
F stands for Fair.
When you are being Fair, who are you being fair to?
Yourself and Others
What 2 things are most important to consider when deciding which skill to use (FAST, GIVE, DEAR MAN)?
Your goal and priority
Describe how you might appear confident.
make good eye contact
speak clearly
do not whisper