About Mrs. Yates
What is Mrs. Yates favorite color?
Name the strategy: Count ____________
Count to 10
What is conflict?
A disagreement or argument with another person (or people)
What is self control?
Self control = controlling self
Being able to remain in control of how we act on our emotions with both words and actions.
What is Mrs. Yates' job title and what does she do?
She is a School Counselor. Her job is to support ALL students with problems that come up, coping with different feelings, helping work through problems, and to be there to listen.
What is the name of Mrs. Yates dog?
Huck
Name the strategy: Tracing a shape
Square breathing or Starfish breathing
What is the framework for an I Statement?
I feel ______, when you _______. Can you please _______.
Are all consequences negative?
No. Some can be good consequences, some can be bad.
What does it mean to keep something confidential?
Confidential means to keep something private and not tell others.
What 2 universities did Mrs. Yates attend?
University of Iowa and Vanderbilt
Name the strategy: Moving your body in order to calm it
Yoga, exercise, or go for a walk
Why does Mrs. Yates want us to learn about I statements and resolving conflict?
So we can solve problems on our own. It helps relationships and communication.
Remember the "self controller" sheet, what was it used for?
It is the idea that we all have our own game controller, and the different buttons help us choose to use different calming strategies so we can remain in control of our actions and make good choices.
Why do you think it is important to have a school counselor?
School counselors support all students with anything that might come up, good or bad. Counselors listen and help students problem solve, build relationships, build confidence, and learn new life skills. Without a counselor, I might not have a space to talk through challenging things in private.
What is Mrs. Yates favorite dessert?
Brownies or Chocolate chip cookies
Why would a calming strategy be needed in this situation?... Your parents yelled at you for being unkind to your brother/sister, they stick their tongue out at you to rub it in. You feel SUPER angry.
Because a calming strategy can help us calm down, and think before we act. We won't do something to get us in even more trouble.
Hey Bob, I feel a little annoyed when you keep making those noises while we are trying to work. Could you please stop making those noises?
Why did Mrs. Yates do the "candy challenge?"
To help us practice and show us that sometimes, when there is tempting or fun things going on, we still have to remain in control and make the right choices.
You can ask your teacher to reach out to Mrs. Yates. You can ask your parents to call or email Mrs. Yates.
Or you can ask Mrs. Yates when you walk by her in the mornings or at lunch (during appropriate times).
Mrs. Yates might not be able to meet with you right at that moment, but she will meet with you as soon as her schedule allows!
How many Taylor Swift concerts has Mrs. Yates been to?
8 (going to her 9th in November!)
Why are calming strategies useful?
They help us self-regulate and remain in control of our emotions, and therefore our actions.
What would the I statement be? One of your good friends is making you feel left out and has been having some attitude when talking to you and saying unkind things.
Hey, I'm feeling sad and hurt when you say those unkind things and are leaving me out. Could you please stop and let me be included?
We are all accountable for our actions. We must remain in control regardless of what we are feeling in the moment, and use an appropriate response and actions in different situations. It will help us be a more respectful and our best selves.
When are times Mrs. Yates cannot keep something confidential? Why?
If you share with her that you are planning to hurt yourself, you are planning to hurt someone else, or someone is hurting you.
Because Mrs. Yates is also here to keep all students safe!