Peer Pressure
True or False: Peer pressure can only be negative.
False (it can be positive too)
True or False: It's best to solve a problem when I'm upset so I'll know exactly what to do.
What is: False
You can think logically when you've had time to get calm.
When is it harder to use self-control?
more kids & less adults (bus, playground, bus, cafeteria, camp, etc...)
feeling too silly, angry, etc...
being really tired
peer pressure
True or False: Friends always give good advice.
False, you must use your own judgement
True or False: Ignoring problems is the best way to deal with stress.
False
Peer pressure is…
-When someone around your age influences you to do something you might not normally do
-When someone gets you to break the rules
-When someone asks you to do something you don't want to do
What is a possible solution to the following problem:
You're in a group chat with kids from your school. One kid keeps posting inappropriate pictures and swearing.
Possible solutions:
1. say "stop"
2. leave the group
3. report it to a parent or adult at school
A growth mindset is when you: (choose all that apply)
a. view challenges as opportunities
b. believe intelligence can grow & expand
c. say "I'm not good at this."
a & b
You were invited to a party, but your close friend was not. They seem very sad about it.
Acknowledge their feelings and perhaps suggest a different activity for the two of you to do together later to show you still value the friendship.
What is a positive coping strategy when you are feeling stressed about your school work?
Make a list & priortize your work, ask your teacher for help, stay focused in class, work at home to get caught up
What is an example of something a person may be peer pressured into doing?
breaking the rules, teasing, bullying, cheating, lying, leaving someone out on purpose, being disrespectful, being mean on purpose, stealing
True or False: An I-message works well with friends, parents and teachers.
I feel _______.
When you ______.
I wish ________.
What is: True
S = Say the Problem
T = Think of ________
E = Explore consequences
P = Pick the best Solution
Solutions
What does it mean to be a upstander?
stick up for someone, support someone being targeted, report to an adult
Who can you talk with if you feel pressure or stress?
Parents, teachers, or close friends
What is a strategy for avoiding peer pressure?
Be a leader, be assertive and say "No", Walk away, talk to a close friend or trusted adult, avoid areas where kids try to peer pressure others
What should you do if you are in an argument with a friend and he/she does not want to talk about it?
Give space, say "could you let me know if/when you'd like to talk?", spend time with other friends
Your friends are generally nice but make fun of others when they are all together.
How could you handle this?
Address the behavior without being confrontational; suggest a different activity or state that the teasing makes you uncomfortable.
For ex. "Guys, we've got too much work to do to be sitting around teasing and bullying others." OR
"You guys are usually nice, the teasing doesn't feel good."
You've been playing an online game with other people. Someone (that you know) has started sounding sad & saying things that make you feel worried. They tell you not to tell anyone. What do you do?
A. There's nothing you can really do b/c your online friend will never trust you if you tell.
B. Don't believe them b/c they're probably joking.
C. Tell a trusted adult.
C. Tell a trusted adult so he/she can get help.
What is a good coping strategy to use when you fail or make a mistake?
Take deep belly breaths, take a short break, keep trying, use Positive self-talk:
Act It Out: You are working with a partner on a project, but they keep ignoring your ideas. You do not like it.
Use an "I" statement to express your feelings without blaming.
"I feel _______ when ________. I'd like________."
"I feel frustrated when my ideas aren't heard. I'd like it if we would try one of mine next."
You heard from a classmate that a friend was talking bad about you behind your back. Is this a rumor? What should you do?
This could be a rumor. It may or may not be true. You can:
Ask your friend if he/she said mean things; ask your friend to stop, if it's not a big deal -let it go
A friend has been talking bad about a classmate. It makes you uncomfortable. What could you do?
tell you friend if makes you uncomfortable and ask him/her to stop, say "that's not cool", talk with an adult you trust
The Social Media Post: A friend posted an embarrassing photo of you online.
What could you do?
Respond politely but firmly (assertively). Ask them to take it down and explain that it made you feel humiliated, rather than responding rudely online.
You're going to camp with a group of friends. You find out that you're not rooming with your closest friend(s). What can you do to help handle that frustration?
Take some deep breaths, say "I can handle tough things. I will still have fun."
have a positive attitude, try to get to know others in your cabin, smile, find things you are grateful for