GIVE Skills
G - Give
I - Interested
V - Validate
E - Easy Manner
What does the Acronym DEAR MAN stand for?
D - Describe
E - Express
A - Assert
R - Reinforce
M - Mindful
A - Appear Confident
N - Negotiate
What does the acronym FAST stand for?
F - Fair
A - Apologies
S - Stick to values
T - Truthful
What does the acronym THINK stand for?
T - Think
H - Have empathy
I - Interpretations
N - Notice
K - Kindness
What is the goal of the GIVE skill?
Keeping and maintaining healthy relationships
Don't attack, use threats, or cast judgements is an example of what part of G.I.V.E. ?
Gentle
"The last three weekends, I have noticed you coming home after curfew." is an example of what part of DEAR MAN?
Describe
Complete the sentence:
"Be fair to yourself and to the ____ _____."
Other person
How do you use the Think part of the THINK Skills?
Think about if from the other person's perspective.
Getting someone to do what you want
______ and act interested in what the other person is saying.
Listen
Express
DBT states, "If you wronged someone, don't _______."
Underapologize.
Use _____ and be _____ when you approach the other person.
Kindness and Gentle
What are 3 factors to consider in asking for what you want?
Priorities, Capability, Timeliness, Preparation, Relationship, Give and Take.
"That must have felt..." is an example of what part of G.I.V.E. ?
Validate
DBT suggests you "Keep your focus on what you want, avoiding distracts." when doing what part of DEAR MAN?
Mindful
"Don't sell out to get what you want, to fit in, or to avoid saying no." is an example of what part of FAST?
Stick to values
"What might he or she be feeling or thinking?" is an example of what part of the THINK Skills?
Have empathy
What stops you from achieving your goals?
Lack of skill, Worry thoughts, Emotions, Can't decide, Environment.
How does DBT suggest you use an Easy Manner?
SMILE.
Use Humor.
Use nonthreatening body language.
Leave your attitude at the door.
"I would be willing to trust you more and give you more privileges if you stuck to our curfew agreement." is an example of what part of DEAR MAN?
Reinforce
How does DBT suggest you "be Truthful"?
Don't lie.
Don't act helpless when you are not.
Don't make up excuses or exaggerate.
How do you practice the 'I' part of the THINK Skills
"Think of more than one possible interpretation or explanation for the other's behavior."
Give one example of a Wise Mind statement from the Interpersonal Effectiveness packet.
"Just because I didn't get what I wanted last time does not meant that if I ask skillfully this time that I won't get it."
"I can handle it if I don't get what I want or need."
"I takes a strong person to admit that he [she] needs help from someone else and then ask for it."
"If I say 'no' to people and they get angry, it doesn't mean I should have said 'yes'."
"I can deal with it if he [she] is annoyed with me."