Anger Iceberg
True or False: We have emotions underneath anger sometimes.
TRUE!
True or False: Being stuck and flexible is in our control.
TRUE!
What are the 3 different communication styles?
Hint: they are 3 different animals
Aggressive Tiger
Passive Turtle
Assertive Owl
Is Positive Self-Talk a CBT or DBT skill?
Hint: this skill has a lot to do with our thoughts..!
CBT
If you could choose a new name for yourself, what would it be and why?
Awesome!
Name two emotions that might be under anger
Hint: (our hidden emotions)
Nervous, embarrassed, sad, uncomfortable
What visual do we use to talk about stuck vs. Flexible?
Fork in the road.
What are examples of unhelpful communication?
Yelling
Screaming
Hitting
Hiding
Igorning
What is self-talk?
It's the way that we talk to ourselves in our head.
What is your favorite holiday, and why?
Love holidays!
What is a skill you can use to help cope with your hidden emotions?
Positive Self-Talk, DISTRACT, Lemons to Lemonade, Wise Mind
Give an example of being STUCK when your parent asks you to turn off electronics.
Ex. Keep playing electronics, throw your electronics, yell, slam the door, etc.
If I am ignoring, hiding, refusing to communicate, and not getting any of my needs met, which animal am I communicating like?
Passive Turtle
What are the 2 types of ways that we can practice positive self-talk ?
Cheerleader statements AND listening things I'm good at or like about myself.
If one of your toys could come to life, which one would you choose?
That would be interesting
Name a situation where you acted angry and thought you were angry but might have actually been feeling another emotion.
Losing a baseball game, getting an answer wrong, having to go to bed
Give an example of being FLEXIBLE when you really don’t want to do your homework.
Ex. Take a short break and keep trying, use TIP, take deep breaths, ask for help.
Which of the two communication styles are unhelpful?
Aggressive Tiger and Passive Turtle
Give an example of a cheerleader statement.
"You got this!"
"You can do it!"
"You're trying your best!"
"Go ____ , Go!"
What would your dream vacation look like/consist of?
So fun!
What percentage of our iceberg is actually seen by other people?
30%?
10%?
90%?
100%?
10%
Give an example of a time being flexible would be helpful for YOU!
NICE JOB!!!
Give an example of communicating like an assertive owl.
Ex. Asking for help
Using a DEAR statement
Calm voice
Calm body
Using a skill
How does replacing our ANTS with positive self talk statements affect our CBT triangle?
Hint: think about the different emotions you will then feel..
It helps us feel more pleasant emotions AND have expected actions.
If you could learn how to do one thing, anything, what would it be? (sport, dance, instrument, etc.)
You can do it!