Conflict or Not?
I Statements (“I Feel…”)
Problem-Solving Steps
Upstanders vs. Bystanders
100

Two students want the same seat. Conflict or Not?

Conflict

100

What do all I-statements start with?


“I feel…”

100

What’s the first step in solving a problem?

Calm down

100

What is an upstander?

Someone who takes action to help

200

Someone bumps you and says “my bad.” Conflict or Not?

Not conflict

200

Which one is an I-statement?

A. “You never listen to me.”
B. “I feel frustrated when I get interrupted.”
C. “Why are you like that?”
D. “Stop talking over me.”

B. “I feel frustrated when I get interrupted.”

200

What does “identify the problem” mean?


Figure out what the real issue is

200

What is a bystander?

Someone who watches and stays silent

300

Someone keeps making jokes about your clothes every day.

Bullying

300

Fix this: “You make me angry when you talk.”

“I feel angry when I’m interrupted.”

300

What is brainstorming?

Thinking of multiple possible solutions.

300

Which is an example of being an upstander?

Checking on someone who’s being targeted

400

Your friend disagrees with your idea for a project.

Conflict

400

Why do I-statements help with conflict?

They express feelings without blaming. 

400

What makes a solution “good”?


It’s fair, respectful, and safe

400

What’s a safe way to be an upstander?

Getting an adult or teacher

500

Someone posts something rude about you online (one time)

Conflict (not bullying unless repeated)

500

Fill in the blank: I feel __ when __.

Any emotion + specific situation

500

What’s the LAST step in problem-solving?

Reflect on how it went

500

Why do people stay silent sometimes?

They’re scared, confused, or don’t know what to do

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