Realistic Expectations of Young Children
Why is it important for parents to avoid expecting perfection from children?
Children are still learning and will make mistakes.
What does “object permanence” mean in toddlers?
Understanding that things exist even when they can’t be seen.
Why should adults get down to a child’s level when speaking?
To improve listening, reduce intimidation, and encourage communication.
Why can yelling at children make behaviour worse?
It can scare them, lower confidence, or lead to more misbehaviour.
What does self-regulation mean for young children?
Learning to manage their own behaviour and emotions.
What is a common reason children misbehave?
They may lack experience or not understand what to do.
Why do toddlers sometimes throw tantrums?
They are still learning to manage big emotions like frustration and disappointment.
What role does eye contact play in communication with children?
It encourages them to talk, while respecting cultural differences.
What are some risks of using excessive discipline?
Children may feel unloved, become rebellious, or lose self-esteem.
Give an example of a way parents can encourage independence.
Letting children make choices, like picking clothes or meals.
How do children usually learn respect for others?
By observing and experiencing respect from parents and carers.
Why do children ask “why?” so many times?
Their curiosity is growing, and they want to understand the world.
Why is praise most effective when it’s specific?
It helps children understand exactly which behaviour is being encouraged.
What type of parenting style is most effective for positive behaviour?
Authoritative—clear expectations, consistent consequences, and warmth.
Why are routines and limits important for children?
They provide structure and help children understand expectations.
Why should parents praise honesty even if discipline is still needed?
To encourage children to keep being truthful.
At what age do children typically start saying “no,” show independence, walk, and begin to use words?
1-2 years old.
How can ignoring certain behaviours help reduce them?
Without attention, negative behaviours like whining often stop.
Name one strategy to redirect younger children away from negative behaviour.
Distraction (e.g., offering another toy).
How can parents support autonomy without taking over?
By encouraging effort, allowing mistakes, and praising attempts.
What is a positive way for parents to respond when a child lies or steals?
Treat it calmly, model honesty, explain why it’s wrong, and guide them positively.
At what age do children typically start making friends, following simple rules, and showing curiosity in learning?
5-6 years old
What is the difference between praise and rewards?
Praise recognises effort or behaviour, while rewards give something tangible.
Why is teaching children to solve problems better than punishing them?
It builds skills for handling challenges in the future.
How does setting limits actually help a child develop self-control?
Boundaries teach them what behaviour is acceptable and build responsibility.