Group Roles
This is the opposite of a bossy leader.
A helpful leader
This is an example of a red light cue.
Correct responses include: looking away, harsh tone of voice, angry face, not answering or giving short responses.
If you are matching this way, you are positioning yourself in the same way as everyone else (sitting, standing, etc.)
Body
If your voice is quiet or difficult to hear, you are likely using this form of communication.
Passive
Adjusting the plan to include someone else's idea is an example of this social skill.
This person does not match or follow the plan of the group.
The detractor
This is an example of a green light cue.
Correct responses include: eye contact, friendly face, neutral or excited tone of voice, leaning in, texting back, making plans.
If you are matching this way, you are talking about the same thing everyone else is.
Topic
Accusations, name-calling, swearing, and blaming are all examples of this form of communication.
Aggressive
This form of communication is the most effective way to communicate when working with others.
Assertive
The cheerleader
You stop at a red light cue, you go at a green light, and you do this at a yellow light cue.
Slow down, proceed with caution, gather more information.
If you are matching this way, you are as soft or loud as everyone else.
Voice.
"Would you please stop hitting me?" is an example of this form of communication.
Passive
"If ___, then ___ could happen." This is an example of thinking before speaking/acting which is called this.
This person tries to help group members work out disagreements.
The mediator.
This could happen if you don't stop at a red light cue.
Social crash
If you are matching this way, you are doing what everyone else is doing.
Activity
An example of an "I message" is ...
"I feel ___ when you ___."
"I need you to ___."
"I want ____."
When someone gets stuck on one idea and can't move on, it is called being this.
Rigid
This is the difference between bossy and assertive.
True or false: A red light cue means that the person is not interested in a friendship with you.
False: it could mean that you are not matching, that they are busy or distracted, or that they cannot talk right now.
If you are matching this way, you are reading the tone of the room (example: serious vs silly, upbeat vs relaxed)
Mood
One assertiveness tool is ...
Correct answers include: strong voice, eye contact, tell vs ask, I messages, serious facial expression, words match non-verbal cues
The social filter checklist includes these three items.
Is it ___?
Is it ___?
Is it ___?
Helpful
Kind
Necessary