Provide a definition
Victim stance
"He started it"
"I couldn't help it"
"You didn't give me a chance"
You blame others for your own mistakes and avoid responsibility by playing the victim.
"I can't attitude": A statement of lack of ability which is really a statement of ______.
refusal
Lack of concept of injury to others
You do not stop to think about how your actions will harm others (except physically); you have no concept of hurting other people's feelings.
EX: Telling your mom you hate her during an argument
You refuse to back down even on little points
Pride
Bob is threatening to fight his friend Steve if Steve doesn't go to the mall with him. What thinking errors is Bob using?
Anger
No concept of trust
You blame others for not trusting you and try to make others feel as though it is their fault.
Refusal to accept obligation: You find yourself saying "_________" a lot.
I forgot
Attitude of ownership
"If you don't give it to me, I'll take it."
EX: Stealing pens from JuliAnna's office
You use anger to try and control people
Anger
When Bob is mad at his parents, he often says a lot of mean things without thinking. What thinking error is Bob using?
Lack of concept of injury to others
Unrealistic expectations
Because you think something should happen, it will (thinking makes it so). You expect others to fall in line and accommodate your wishes.
Fear of being put down: You do not take ________ without flaring up and blaming others, or pointing out their faults.
criticism
Flawed definition of success
Success is being #1 overnight, and failure is being anything less than #1.
EX: "I didn't get 100% on my exam, I'm terrible at math"
You have little of no empathy unless it is to con someone. You do not consider the impact of your behavior on other people
Failure to put yourself in the place of others
Staff told Bob that he cannot use the laptop because he went on social media on it last week. Bob says, "That was one time! You should know that I wouldn't do that again!". What thinking error is Bob using?
No concept of trust
Your future is not considered unless it is to accomplish something illicit or illegal, or else you engage in fantasies of tremendous (and unrealistic) success.
Anger: Your anger is like a _____; it grows and spreads and anyone or anything may be a target.
tumor
Refusal to acknowledge fear
You deny every being afraid and see fear as weakness. You fail to realize that fear can be constructive.
EX: "He's twice my size, but I'm not afraid to fight him"
You find yourself saying "I forgot" a lot. You do not see things as obligations to begin with
Refusal to accept obligation
Bob is told that the cottage isn't going into town that day. Bob immediately assumes this is because staff hates him. What thinking error is Bob using?
Irresponsible decision making
Irresponsible decision making
You make assumptions without checking out the facts. You make judgements about other peoples beliefs and behaviors. You blame others when things go wrong.
Lack of concept of injury to others: You do not stop to think how your actions will harm other (__________).
except physically
"I can't attitude"
A statement of lack of ability that is really a statement of refusal ("I won't")
EX: "I can't go to school this afternoon because I have a doctors appointment at 3pm"
You attempt to overcome others in any struggle
Staff tell Bob that he can't use a speaker that belongs to his peer. Bob takes the speaker anyway. What thinking error is Bob using?
Attitude of ownership