Coping skills
Where can you go when you are feeling angry (at home and at school)?
My room / outside
Cool Down Spot / restroom
How would you feel if someone called you a mean name?
Sad, upset, etc.
What would you think if you had a bad day at school?
That today may be bad, but tomorrow could be better, etc.
How do you behave to have a good day?
I do what is expected of me; I follow the rules; etc.
You go to the gym and do some exercise. What's your reward?
What is you become healthy and fit. You become stronger and you may become leaner.
What can you do if you are getting distracted in class?
Go for a walk, get a drink of water, etc.
How would you feel if you did not understand your classroom assignment?
Confused, frustrated, upset, etc.
What would you think if you got a bad grade?
That I should have studies more; that I can do better next time; etc.
What are your behaviors on the playground?
Playing with other kids, running around, etc.
What is the difference between a consequence and a reward?
A consequence is a result of your action and can be positive or negative. A reward is given and it is always positive.
What should you do if you're feeling angry about routine and chores?
Give yourself space, take deep breaths, jump, punch the pillow, etc.
How would you feel if you if you were grounded and lost your weekends?
Angry, upset, frustrated, etc.
What would you think if your parents yelled at you?
That the they were mean; that I don't deserve being yelled at; etc.
What are your behaviors on the weekend?
Watching TV, hanging out with friends/family, etc.
Sally is playing ball and purposely throws the ball hard at her friend's head.What could the consequence be?
She could get into a fight, her friend could be injured, she could lost this friendship, etc...
What can you do if you begin to tense your shoulders and jaw?
Deep breathing, chew gum, stretch, speak to someone, use distraction techniques, etc.
How do you feel when you have a good day?
Happy, excited, etc.
What do you think if your best friend ignored you at school?
That I did something bad; that I can ask what's going on; etc.
What are your behaviors at home?
Watching TV, reading, hanging out with my family, playing video games, etc.
You just got home from grocery shopping. You try to bring in all 20 bags at the same time because you don't feel like making more than one trip from the car. Is there a reward? Is there a consequence? And which is more important to you?
Reward: You only have to make on trip.
Consequence: The bags could break causing something to break or your arms could hurt from bringing in all the bags at once.
Demonstrate a coping skill!
Act one out!
Demonstrate the feeling of scared!
Act it out!
What would you think if school was cancelled for the day?
That I have a free day to do whatever I want, etc.
How do your parents behave when you don't dor your chores?
They run after me, they talk nicely and negotiate with me, they yell, they ground me, they cry, etc...
You don't turn the TV off when you're asked to, but your parents don't know becouse they went to the yard. Is there a reward? What? Is there a consequence? What? Which is more important?
Reward: You get to keep watching the show you like.
Consequences: You are going to be grounded, your parents may get frustrated and angry; etc