TRUST
BOUNDARIES
TONE + FLAGS
BOUNDARY STYLES
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY?
100

Someone keeps their promises over time

Builds trust

100

What is a boundary?

A limit you set to protect yourself

100

“I’m not okay with that.”

Assertive

100

“I guess it’s fine…”

Weak boundary

100

Someone keeps texting you nonstop

“I can’t respond all the time—please don’t expect immediate replies.”

200

A friend lies to you once—what happens to trust?

 It is damaged / broken

200

Is this a good boundary? “I guess it’s fine…”

No (too passive)

200

Someone respects your boundaries

Green flag

200

“I don’t trust anyone. Stay away from me.”

Rigid boundary

200

A friend asks for your homework answers

“I’m not giving out my answers, but I can help you.”

300

Why shouldn’t everyone start at the top of your trust ladder?

Trust must be earned over time

300

What type of boundary is this: “Don’t go through my phone”?

Digital/personal boundary

300

“Leave me alone!”

Aggressive

300

“I’m not okay with that. Please stop.”

Healthy boundary

300

Someone makes a joke that bothers you

“I don’t think that’s funny—please stop.”

400

A person apologizes but keeps repeating the same behavior

Trust is still broken (actions matter more than words)

400

What is a sign someone is crossing a boundary?

Ignoring your discomfort / continuing behavior

400

Someone pressures you to do something

Red flag

400

What is a weak boundary?

Letting others cross limits / not speaking up

400

Someone goes through your stuff

“Don’t go through my things—I’m not okay with that.”

500

Name one behavior that builds trust AND one that breaks it

(varies—honesty vs lying, etc.)

500

Why are boundaries important?

Protect time, space, feelings, prevent problems

500

Why is assertive communication better than passive or aggressive?

Clear + respectful + direct

500

What is the difference between rigid and healthy boundaries?

Rigid = shuts people out
Healthy = clear + respectful

500

Someone asks for your phone passcode

“I’m not sharing that—my phone is private.”

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