Have you been listening?
How do you combat contempt? And what is 1 example?
Share Fondness & Admiration
Foster a healthy relationship by regularly showing each other respect and appreciation.
• Show affection.
• Recognize your partner’s strengths.
• Give compliments.
Anxiety is a feeling of...
unease that will accompany unpleasant thoughts that are hard to get out of your head.
Give an example of Opposite action for angry
instead of fighting/yelling/arguing --> talk quietly and behave politely
Forgiveness IS
The decision to overcome pain that was inflicted by another person.
Letting go of anger, resentment, shame, and other emotions associated with an injustice, even though they are reasonable feelings.
Treating the offender with compassion, even though they are not entitled to it.
The 4 horsemen are behaviors that...
escalate conflict and damage a relationship. Over time, these harmful behaviors may become a normal part of communication between partners.
What are the 5 senses?
See, Feel, Hear, Smell, Taste
Self care activities are ______
things you do to maintain good health and improve well being.
Name 3 ideas of activities for "paying attention to positive events"
Have a good unrushed meal
visit a local attraction like a zoo or museum
have a picnic
watch a movie
go for a walk
give yourself a relaxing night in
visit with family or friends
put on headphones and do nothing but listen to music
try a new hobby
What is forgiveness NOT?
Reconciliation (repairing or returning to a relationship), Forgetting the injustice, Condoning or excusing the offender’s behavior, Granting legal mercy to the offender, “Letting go”, but wishing for revenge.
How do you correct defenesiveness? Also, give an example using a sentence.
Own up to your behavior without blaming others.
• Avoid taking feedback personally. • Use feedback as an opportunity to improve. • Show remorse and apologize.
“I shouldn't have raised my voice. I’m sorry."
T/F: forgiveness can occur without ever speaking to the wrongdoer.
true
Name 3 possible symptoms of anxiety
Headache, high blood pressure, irritability, trouble sleeping, fatigue, stomach issues, feeling numb, withdrawal, etc.
What is the first question in "check the facts"
What event triggered my emotion?
What are you doing in the Work Phase?
During the third phase, you will start to understand the offender in a new way, which will allow positive feelings toward the offender and yourself.
What are the 4 antidotes?
Gentle start up, Take responsibility, Share fondness/admiration, Use self-soothing
Please have each team member name one thing that would "sit below the surface" of the anxiety iceburg?
numb, intrusive thoughts, low self esteem, shame, guilt, hopelessness, grief
What are the 5 Self-Care Domains we discussed in the assessment?
Physical, Psychological/Emotions, Social, Spiritual, and Professional
What does PLEASE stand for?
PL- Treat Physical Illness
E- eat healthy
A- avoid mood altering drugs
S- Sleep well
E- Exercise
What are the 4 phases of forgiveness?
The Uncovering Phase.
The Decision Phase
The Work Phase.
The Deepening Phase.
What does stonewalling look like?
Emotionally withdrawing, shutting down, or going silent during important discussions.
• Often a response to feeling overwhelmed. • Used to avoid difficult discussions or problems. • Underlying problems go unresolved
Give an example of how to use "Gentle Start Up"
Dealing with problems in a calm and gentle way. The focus is on the problem—not the person.
• Save the discussion for an appropriate time.
• Use warm body language and tone of voice.
• Use “I” statements.
“I feel frustrated when dirty dishes are left in the sink. Could you please do the dishes tonight?”
What are the 6 causes/triggers for anxiety
Personality types, life events, brain chemistry, thoughts, genetics and own actions/behaviors.
What are the 4 emotional regulation skills we discussed?
Opposite action, PLEASE, Check the facts and paying attention to positive events.
Forgiveness is a process where....
someone who has been wronged chooses to let go of their resentment, and treat the wrongdoer with compassion.
What are the 4 different horsemen?
Criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling